Shout out to
all the wonderful people reading this!!!
Man Check, one two, one two! Testing the Man in your life, one
two, one two! Hehehehe. Just following the regular routine used to check out
microphones if they work properly, but today of course, it’s the men in our
lives we’re checking. Now if you’re just dating him for dating sake, you may
not need what I’m about to say. But if you intend to take the relationship to
the next level, probably switch gears to courtship/marriage, then this post is
for you.
There are
two mistakes common to us ladies:
It’s
either we’re carried away with being his “chosen
girl” that we don’t check to see if he’s the right kind of man for us
Or
We haven’t
rightly set our priorities and don’t have a checklist. And even when we have a
checklist, it’s not good enough.
Why Do I Need A Checklist? Love
is all that Matters After All.
Are you
serious? Wake up and smell the coffee. People who love each other to pieces
break up every day because of incompatibility. This is usually because they
didn’t check properly before they went so far into the relationship.
A
checklist is the list of things you should be looking out for in something.
After making a product, manufacturers use a checklist to ensure the every part
of the product is functioning as it ought to. The list helps them ensure that
all aspects of the product are properly checked without omitting any. Even when
you go to buy shoes, you do have an idea of what you want which helps you in
your search. After you’ve found the perfect shoe, you still have to wear it on
your legs to be sure it suits you before you finally buy it, don’t you?
To
decipher if the present guy suits who you are, where you’re going to in life
and if you should change gears in your relationship, you need to use your
checklist! Period!
What Should Your Checklist
Contain?
Your
checklist should contain qualities you need from your man, qualities you can
put up with even if you don’t like it and deal breakers (things you can’t put
up with). Now make a list of qualities the guy has been displaying, both good
and bad. This will help you know if you should switch gears or take a bow.
What you
have in your checklist matters a lot. Even in business deals, some things are
negotiable and some are non-negotiable. What is negotiable for me may be
non-negotiable for you. On your checklist, determine which ones are negotiable
and which are non-negotiable; which ones you can accept, manage or just not put
up with.
Time For A Man-Check
We all
have a mental picture of what we want from our relationships but it’s time to
put that on paper, analyse the relationship you’re in, check that man in your
life and be sure he’s exactly what you need. A lot of times, we start a
relationship due to some nice things we saw in the person only to discover that
we’re not compatible. We allow “Love” (what
we feel presently) blind us and overshadow our sense of judgement until we
finally wake-up in a marriage or relationship we can’t wait to break out from.
But you don’t have to let it come to that. Do that man check today. Only a careless
sound engineer sets up sound equipment without testing it. Only a careless
person flys into marriage on the wings of love without a doing a proper check. Selah.
P.S: This post is actually the first in a
series of posts I will be doing titled “Man
Check”. Keep your eyes glued to this blog for the sequels to this post. You
know I love y’all. Xoxo
Stinginess
is
when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it
to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t
tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know
you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo
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