Vashti, Oh Vashti! Here Comes Your Fall!

Shout out to all those who constantly view this blog. What would I do without you? Xoxoxoxoxoxo

First things first: Haaaaaapppppyyyyy new month. I so love new beginnings. They come with a breath of fresh air and lofty hopes…you know that sort of thing. May this month be better than the last one for us all. As the month of May begins, here’s some food for thought to help fine tune you and I and position us correctly for the month. Are you ready?

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Vashti…dear Vashti…

Vashti was a queen whose story could be found in the book of Esther (in the Bible). You may or may not know her story. She’s actually been dead for centuries, but I’m not talking about that Vashti. I’m talking about this Vashti…I mean the one reading this blog post right now. ”Who, me?”, you say. Yes, you. You are the Vashti I’m talking about. “But my name isn’t Vashti”, you think to yourself. Well, that may not actually be your name, but with the things you’ve been doing lately, you’re so much like her.

What makes you our modern day Vashti? Check yourself to see if you fit into any of these profiles:

• ·     You’ve been dishing out consistent disrespect (both in public and in private) to the man in your life.

• ·         You talk nasty to him not minding who is present, making him look like a wimp.

• ·         You do things for him only when you feel like it.

• ·       You talk nasty to your boss and give him/her attitude because you wanna prove you’re a “no nonsense person”.

• ·     You don’t take instructions/orders where you work because you feel you’re so smart and you love doing it your way.

• ·   You don’t know when to observe “protocol” so you act the same way you do everywhere.

• ·   When you’re angry, you go ballistic, turning into a tornado (or should I say, Hurricane Vashti,lol).

If you fit into any of these profiles, you’re the one I’m talking about; you’re our modern day Vashti.

So what’s all the fuss about Vashti?

Vashti had it all. She was the queen, not the queen of a village, town, city or country, but the queen of an empire that ruled countries across continents. But she lost it in a moment. Why? She was used to having her way, doing what she felt like, whenever she felt like it. She was used to always insisting things go her way. She never understood the importance of observing “protocol”. Why not? She had gotten away with it many times before, so she felt she could always get away with it. She wasn’t thoughtful enough to discern that time was up for her nastiness and the last step she would take would become the last straw that broke the camel’s back. If you think I’m talking in parables, google Vashti or read up her story in the book of Esther so you get a clearer picture.

Vashti, Oh Vashti! Here comes your fall.

If you fit any of the profiles I earlier mentioned, it is time for you to do a 360-degree turn around. “Pride”, they say, “goes before a fall”. You’ve been successfully getting away before now with all that crap. But I announce to you, if you don’t amend your ways, your fall lies by the corner. What was Vashti’s fall like? She lost her crown and position after her last bout of disrespect and foolishness finally got the attention of the powers that be, the people that had the right and ability to engineer her downfall.

Shew! Wetin this girl dey yarn today? (meaning: what is she blabbing today.) Is she Ok?

Hello there, I’m perfectly Ok. Just trying to remove the scale from your eyes blinding you to the fact that your nastiness is getting out of hand and will soon bring you trouble. It’s time for you to throw all that away and learn some courtesy or don’t the man in your life and your boss in the office deserve some respect and courtesy? You’ve been doing a lot of PDA (public display of affection). How about you start doing more of PDR and PDC (public display of respect and public display of courtesy)? Oh…you think that’s pretence? No, it’s not. I’m talking about you amending your ways for good.

You can disagree with me all you want. You can justify yourself and your actions all you want. But you can’t stop what happened to Vashti from happening to you cuz Karma is such a bitch and seed-time/harvest will never cease, as long as the earth remains. 

In simple language, all your girl has been trying to say is this:

• Respect the man in your life and treat him nicely

• Stop disrespecting him, especially before other people. It’s belittling!

• You don’t have to do things for him only when you feel like it. Sometimes go out of your way to respond to his requests.

• Stop bossing your boss, throwing tantrums with that grouchy attitude of yours. It’s expired, abeg. Learn to follow orders. It’s not about you; it’s about what is right. Make things easier. Change your attitude.

• Sometimes it’s not about what you say/do but how and when you do it. Some annoying things you do in private become a nuisance when done in public. You may raise your voice or talk harshly in an argument at home with your man but when you carry that to the public place, you tell us how ill-mannered, out of control, insensitive, immature and disrespectful you are. The public place is different; it has its own protocol; Observe it!

• Learn to control your anger, for God’s sake. You are not Hurricane Vashti!

The men in our lives deserve better. The bosses we work with also deserve better. If you value your place in his life and in that job of yours, you’ll be ready to make the necessary changes, before you eventually lose your place. A word, they say, is enough for the wise.

P.S: It’s a new month. Use this opportunity to turn a new leaf. Need help to change? May God give you the grace you need. xoxoxoxo

Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked.

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