Life is too short
to spend it angry and bitter against those
who hurt you. Let Go!!!
So my
birthday has come and gone (it was on Tuesday 17th June) and I’m
still feeling fresh and new basking in the euphoria of that special day. Special
thanks to all those who sent texts, facebook messages, called and gave gifts;
and special thanks to my Word WYN pips who came to hang out with me later that
day.
“Bitterness”
here means anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly. It refers to
that point you get to in life when all you think about is who hurt you and what
they did over and over again to the point it generates feelings of anger,
thoughts of revenge and the wish that something similar or something worse
would happen to them. Bitterness is a verrrry crippling emotion that, if
allowed to go on unchecked, could lead to the following:
- Seeking revenge by any means.
- Distaste and HATRED for people of similar gender, tribe, race or age to the one(s) who hurt you.
- A negative change in your behavior which makes you violent, rude, nasty etc.
- Depression and psychological disorders.
- Loss of zeal and passion for life leading to suicidal thoughts and even suicide itself.
Bitterness
is a pit that you don’t want to fall into. Why? Because it twists your life’s
focus and gets you to focus on things that will only bring out the worst in
you. Unfortunately, for as long as we live, nasty things will always occur that
may tempt us to become bitter. And even though we wish we could prevent ourselves
from getting hurt, we can’t prevent it all the time. Here are 10 signs that
will help you know you’re plagued by the bitterness virus and you need to get
help.
Signs that Bitterness has Taken
Hold of You
- You’ve become a shadow of yourself since ____________ happened to you. You’re no longer the joyful, jovial person you once were.
- Almost everything around you reminds you about that one incident you’re trying so hard to forget and when things happens you cry and feel rage all over again.
- Each time you remember what hurt you, you feel the same anger, hurt and disappointment you felt the day it happened, as if it was occurring all over again.
- You’re looking for a way to revenge and get even with the one(s) who hurt you.
- You now see men/women as dogs, liars, devils etc or you now hate all people of a certain tribe or gender with a passion.
- You no longer feel like living anymore because life has lost its taste.
- You no longer want to get married or get into a relationship.
- You punish all other men or women for the sins of the one who hurt you.
- You’ve become hypersensitive; a little action triggers a tornado reaction from you. People have to watch their tongue around you and practically walk on egg shells.
- You always talk about the fact that you were hurt to anyone who cares to listen, even though it’s been years since it happened.
Are You Infected by Bitterness?
If you
check yourself and you’ve discovered that you’re plagued by bitterness, I’ll
like you to know that you need to get
help. Bitterness creates an ulcer or wound in your soul and psyche that, if
left unchecked, could eat you up gradually and cause you to self-destruct with
time. Bitterness is a product not only of being hurt but of not forgiving and
letting go of what happened. Yes, you’re right to feel hurt and angry about
what happened. Yes those things shouldn’t have happened to you in the first
place. But they did anyway and you have to learn to live with them. In the
process of learning to walk, kids fall many times and even get wounded some
times. But they also learn to rise up from the ground and walk again instead of
staying angry and blaming the stone/ground for hurting them. The #1 antidote to bitterness is forgiveness.
Will it be easy? Of course not. Forgiveness is a process that begins the
healing of your soul and eventually enables you to get to the point it doesn’t
hurt anymore. Will you get to that point? Only if you take the first step - forgiveness.
It’s a Serious Matter
Bitterness
is a slow poison that will poison every aspect of your life if you don’t deal
with it. We have to nip it in the bud immediately. Keep a date with me tomorrow
as we talk about bitterness, its effects and how to forgive and overcome it.
For more on bitterness, click here and here to read similar posts on
bitterness.
P:S-Kindly share this post with everyone you
think is plagued with bitterness. It will do them a lot of good plus you’ll be
saving a life.
Are you
at a crossroad? Do you need advice or counsel on lady issues, relationship
matters and life in general? E-mail me
on graceyokoye@yahoo.com
and I’ll be glad to help.
May God help us
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