You are what you hear
and what you read; garbage in-garbage
out.
So I’m a
huge fan of positive self-improvement and I love attending seminars and
conferences; anything that makes me a better person and a better woman. On the
17th of May 2014, Word WYN had ladies conference I was privileged to
attend and speak in. I had promised to share excerpts from the day but hadn’t
gotten around to it. I’m quite glad I get to post the excerpts today
The
conference had a morning and evening session. The excerpts I’m about to post
come from the evening session and it was handled by the President of Word WYN (Word Warring Youth Newtwork, it's a youth ministry)
himself, Pastor Jessy Danladi, whom we fondly call “Sir Jay”. He spoke on “the woman’s place in relationships and
marriage”. Grab a pen and let’s dive into the juicy excerpts right away.
Sir
Jay Speaks…
A woman
is a company, a helper, a home maker. These are the core roles of women in
relationships and marriage. A lot of women dream about having a man they can’t
handle. Before you consider getting married, ask yourself this question: “am I marriable?”
Men and women have different viewpoints and react differently. Understanding
these differences will help you understand the opposite sex and have a better
relationship.
Men are
logical and factual; they mostly respond to facts by reasoning them out logically.
Women are emotional and intuitive; they respond spontaneously to situations. They
analyse things based on their intuition and emotions per time.
Men
and Women’s Needs
In
relationship and marriage, men and women have different needs. If you don’t
understand the needs of a man, you’re gonna have problems in your
relationship/marriage. Every man has natural
needs that you’re in his life as his wife to satisfy.
Men’s Needs
|
Women’s Needs
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1
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Sexual fulfillment
(not sex but sexual fulfillment)
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Affection
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2
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Admiration
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Conversation
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3
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Need to
feel always that their wives are attractive
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Need total
openness and honesty from her husband
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4
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Domestic
security; being able to provide for his family. A man feels lesser when he
can’t provide for his family.
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Financial
and emotional security; the knowing that they will be catered for financially
and emotionally.
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5
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A submissive
and respectful woman. Submission means empowering your husband to be the
leader. It also means bringing your mission under his mission.
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A loving,
caring and thoughtful husband.
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Important: Do not marry a man that disrespects
you and does not value you. Do not seduce or manipulate a man into marrying
you.
Communication
Skills are Crucial
Communication
is the key to a successful relationship and marriage. You have to learn basic
communication skills. If marriage was to be a human being, then communication
would be the blood. If marriage was to be a car, then communication would be
the fuel.
Communication
has two parts: listening and speaking. Two people talking at the
same time is confusion. Two people
listening at the same time is silence.
One person has to speak per time while the other listens. The essence of
communication is to ensure that there is understanding. Until the other person
has understood clearly what you just said, communication is not achieved.
Communication
skills may be good, average or poor. If your parents have a history of bad
communication skills, it is most likely that by association, you may have
absorbed these. If that’s the case then you have to unlearn these and learn
good communication skills.
Wrong
Reasons to Get Married
Peer Pressure- Getting
married because your “mates” are getting married.
Parental Pressure-Getting
married because one’s parents and family members are saying you ought to be
married.
Panic- Panic because it just dawned on
you that you getting older and still not married.
Physical Involvement-Getting
married because you have been physically/sexually involved with the person.
Last Bus Stop-Last bus
stop refers to when you’re at your wits end with looking for a husband and feel
like the man you just found is your final opportunity to get married.
Some other ministers at the event...
Hope you’ve
learnt a lot from these excerpts. You can follow Word WYN on twitter @wordwyn1
and join their facebook group on WORD WYN
P:S-Hearing or reading alone is not enough,
you gotta apply what you’ve learnt to your life. Take action. Xoxo
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