Hello there,
This post is
dedicated to those who’ve done everything they know and things are still not
working out; those who are at their wits end and wondering what step to take
next…If this situation describes you, here are a few things you may want to try
out. Don’t give up just yet; try out the steps listed below and watch how everything
will turn around.
Pray About It
Actually, this ought
to be the first step you need to try out when things aren’t working. Unfortunately,
when we encounter hitches at work, in business or in relationships, we get
carried away with what is happening and forget to pray about it. When you pray
about a situation, you invite God’s help and intervention and open yourself as
well as the situation up to revealed secrets that will turn things around. Aside
from that, there’s a special peace that comes from knowing that you’re no
longer in it alone because you’ve invoked God’s help.
As my pastor Rev.
Prince Emmabel once said, there is a difference between advice and counsel. According
to him, advice is what you get when you disclose your issues to anyone who
cares to listen and it is filled with peoples personal opinion (sometimes
myopic and misguided) about how they think you should respond. Counsel gotten
from people who are qualified academically, psychologically, experience wise, spiritually
etc to handle a particular type of issue or give accurate counsel. Maybe all
you’ve sought this while is advice from your peers and people who’re not in the
position to give you sound counsel and that’s why you’ve gotten your fingers
burnt. He who goes to a dentist to treat his eyes should not complain if he
returns home worse; what business does a dentist have with eye treatment??? This
time around, take your issue to those who are in the position to give you
counsel in business, life matters, marriage matters and etc. Before you go to
them, ask the spirit of the Lord to use them to speak to you.
Take Responsibility
When you keep placing
the blame on others for the things that happen, it blinds you to how you may
have contributed to causing or escalating the issue at hand and what you can do
to turn things around. Truthfully, you may have an overbearing and difficult
boss, a spouse who has trust or temper issues and it maybe true that the other
party is just a troublemaker. Some other person’s carelessness may have landed
you in that mess; but if you look carefully to see how you can help the
situation, it will suddenly dawn on you what new steps you may have to take. Some
situations may not be able to change immediately so we must learn how best to
live with and mange them.
Do Things Differently
I do not know what
things you may have tried to salvage that situation already but if what you’ve
tried so far isn’t working, you need to try something different. Don’t turn a
blind eye to the counsel you received simply because it doesn’t sit too well
with you; try it out. After all, you’ve tried so many things and they didn’t
work; what do you have to lose? When doctors prescribe a drug and it doesn’t work
on a patient despite the fact that it works on others, they try a different drug
meant for that ailment; they do not remain stuck trying the previous one.
Let Go
After you’ve tried
all these things and there’s still no turn around, then it’s time to let go. There’s
no shame in letting go. Letting go is not the same thing as giving up. Giving up means abandoning all home
that there will be a turn around (more like quitting); letting go means relinquishing agitation and worry about how things
will turn out and the fact that things are not working and allowing things play
out while taking the position of perfect peace. Let go and let God take control;
commit everything into God’s hands and stop bothering about it. It will amaze
you how things will turn out.
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Are you
at a crossroad? Do you need advice or counsel on lady issues, relationship
matters and life in general? E-mail me
on graceyokoye@yahoo.com and I’ll be glad to help.