Hello there, how’s the
month of November treating you? Great, I hope. Slowly but surely, the year
draws to an end. My prayer for you is that before the year runs out, that which
you desire most will be granted to you.
Today’s post is dedicated
to the guys, to help them understand why a woman may end up leaving you, even
though she loves you. Most guys believe that the only reason a woman would love
you and still leave is because you never
hammer (you’ve not hit it big financially). However, this is not always the
case, (trust me, I’m a woman so I know) especially if the lady has loved you
for years, even while you didn’t have much. So if money is not the reason, then
what could it possibly be? Just chill, I’m about to let the cat out of the bag.
Reason #1 – You Don’t Have a Focus
This is like the biggest
reason. It’s understandable when in your younger years; you’re moving here and
there trying to find your feet in life. But if at your latter years, you still
appear not to have a focus and direction for your life, no woman will want to
have anything serious to do with you, even if she loves you like crazy. So, don’t
be carried away with the knowledge that she loves you. Find God’s purpose for
you/your direction in life and plunge into it. That way, she’ll know she’s not
with a vagabond; who wants to enter into a car with a driver that doesn’t know
where he’s going to? A good woman will stay with a man who is focused and knows
where he’s going to in life, even if he doesn’t have much presently. Quit
bending her ears with talks of how you love her and put this in place
otherwise, you may end up losing her.
Reason #2 – You’re Becoming More Incompatible Daily
It’s true that
misunderstandings are part of relationships but if after years, you still can’t
understand each other, and you’re becoming more and more incompatible daily, your
relationship will disintegrate fast. Two cannot walk together except they agree
(Amos 3:30); if you’re disagreeing more with each passing year instead of understanding
each other more, the constant friction will eventually wear you out. Strive to
understand each other more and you just might save your relationship.
Reason #3 – You’re Irresponsible
Responsibility is all about knowing what is required of you by virtue of your age/position/duties and meeting it, SIMPLE! Understandably, there will be times when you can’t meet up with what is required of you, not to worry, a good woman understands this and she wouldn’t consider you irresponsible for that. However, if you don’t seem to understand your responsibilities or you understand them but you don’t try to meet them, YOU’RE IRRESPONSIBLE. If you’re financially irresponsible (you’re a spend thrift or you’re stingy and insensitive), sexually/emotionally irresponsible (unfaithful) or any kind of irresponsible, she may be tempted to leave you, even though she loves you. Why? It’s hard to respect irresponsible people and even harder to keep on loving them.
Responsibility is all about knowing what is required of you by virtue of your age/position/duties and meeting it, SIMPLE! Understandably, there will be times when you can’t meet up with what is required of you, not to worry, a good woman understands this and she wouldn’t consider you irresponsible for that. However, if you don’t seem to understand your responsibilities or you understand them but you don’t try to meet them, YOU’RE IRRESPONSIBLE. If you’re financially irresponsible (you’re a spend thrift or you’re stingy and insensitive), sexually/emotionally irresponsible (unfaithful) or any kind of irresponsible, she may be tempted to leave you, even though she loves you. Why? It’s hard to respect irresponsible people and even harder to keep on loving them.
Reason #4 – You’re an Enemy of her Dreams
You may be or claim to be
“the love of her life” but if for any reason, you become the enemy of her
dreams/vision/aspirations, your love for her will eventually become
meaningless. It’s just like telling a parent you love them but you hate their
child/children. No parent will remain your friend when you hate their kids.
Likewise, even though you guys seem to love each other, your constant
opposition will gnaw at the fabric of your relationship and she may wake up one
day and leave you.
Reason #5 – You Still Wanna Sow Wild Oats
By “sow wild oats”, I mean
living a wild roller coaster life with dangerous adventures which also involves
sampling other women. When she loves you, she may stick with you and give you
time, hoping you’ll change and quit that life. But if you refuse to man up, get
a life and become responsible, all those shenanigans could get too frustrating
for her to say.
There! Those are the
reasons a good woman will leave you, even if she loves you to pieces. Love is
important in a relationship but if any of these reasons start occurring and you’re
not doing anything to remedy the situation, you’ll wake up one beautiful day
and she’ll call it quits with you.
So guys, do you agree
with these reasons? Ladies, do you agree with these reasons? Are there any
possible reasons a good woman may leave a guy that I did not include? Don’t
hoard your thoughts; share them via the comments section.
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I agree 100%. You are absolutely right! These are all the reasons why I will leave a man no matter how much I love him or he loves me. I am currently in a relationship with the sweetest man I ever met in my life. He loves me so much and wants to marry me. I adore him but I am gradually drifting away from him with the aim of ending the relationship soon... 3 of the above reasons are responsible for me wanting to break up with him...
ReplyDeleteAww...sorry about that dear. Have you tried talking things over with him? Let him know that his actions are not only hurting you but making you consider leaving him and see if he will change. It's always good to try to work things out before pulling the plug.
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