Hey there, I bet the month of February has been treating you real good. No matter how it has been so far, I would like you to know that your better days lie ahead, not behind. Hold on to your faith and keep pushing on.
A lot of ladies get caught up in a web of confusion with guys who they think have got a thing for them only to have their bubbles busted later on when the guy goes on to date or even marry another lady eventually. If you've ever been in this situation, I sympathise with you. If you haven't, then this post will keep you from such entanglements. Bottom line is - This post is helpful to us all. So, without much ado, here are 5 signs that guy is not into you as much as you think he is.
#1 - YOU DO MOST OF THE CALLING
Yes beau, if you seem to be calling, bbming, whatsapping, or texting more than he does, it's not because he's so busy as he claims; it's simply because you're not a priority for him as he is to you. Believe me, there are other people in his life he calls 24/7 despite his busy schedule and the reason why he calls you once in a blue moon is because you're probably not on his priority list. Wake up my dear! When a man is into you, his calls and messages will prove it; he'll do everything to stay in touch with you. No matter how busy he is in the day, he'll bridge the gap by reaching out to you at night/weekends.
#2 - HE CALLS YOU HIS SISTER AND TREATS YOU LIKE ONE
Aunty mi, if for the past few months or years, he still calls you his sister and keeps treating you like one, it's because that's the box he has put you into in his life. Yes he may start out calling you sister, but if he's into you, your identity in his life should have changed by now to "girlfriend / fiancée". No one marries their sister, at least not in this generation.
#3 - HE'S NEVER OFFICIALLY ASKED YOU OUT
Some guys are in the habit of leading girls on by doing and saying nice things without defining their motives. Don't assume things; the fact that he's acting all nice to you and you have feelings for him doesn't mean the feelings are mutual. Save yourself the heart break dear. Before he wastes your time any further, sit him down and ask him to clarify if he has interest in you and whatever he says will determine your next line of action.
#4- HE SEEKS YOUR ADVICE ON HOW TO GET, HANDLE OR UNDERSTAND LADIES
If this is your case, congratulations! You have just been friend zoned and you're now his special adviser on women matters. This should make you happy if you're getting paid for your services but considering the fact that you would love to have him for yourself, it is just another sign that he's not that into you for the time being (at least not to the extent of having a relationship with you).
#5 - HE'S ALWAYS TRYING TO HOOK YOU UP
Yes oooo, if he's always introducing you to friends in order to hook you up with them, it's obvious you don't mean much to him. What a man wants so much, he keeps for himself.
#6 - YOU'RE HIS REBOUND CHICK, BOREDOM KICKER
If he only calls you to hang out with him when he's bored / during weekends, and has never tried to introduce you to his family members or parents, he's not that into you. He sees you as a boredom kicker or relaxation mate - daz all. If the only time he shows up frequently in your life is when his girlfriend just left him, congratulations. You're on your way to becoming his rebound chick. All that is needed is throwing in some bedmatics and bam! You're officially his rebound chick.
SO WHAT DO I DO???
The phrase "he's not that into you" shows that he likes you on some level but doesn't like you enough to date you or have a serious romantic relationship with you. Hanging around him for TOO LONG hoping he'll change his mind will only end in a broken heart and many tears. Find a suitable day and time and ask him what you mean to him and what his intentions are towards you. If he's been shy and scared all this while, he'll pick up the bait and tell you how he truly feels. If he's put you in the friend or sister zone, he'll tell you plainly so you can find another guy who shares your feelings. Any which way, he'll tell you his CHURCH MIND and save you precious time. 2015 is not the year to waste time pining after a guy who's not that into you hoping he'll change his mind while other guys are interested in you. And if you insist on fasting and praying so he starts liking you, please do. But remember that prayer is not witchcraft used in manipulating someone to love you. If he eventually starts loving you, it'll be because it's in line with God's will for you. Sometimes, stepping out of the friend zone and out of his life eventually makes him realise how much you mean to him. Whatever you do, don't wait there idly hoping he comes around while years are passing - you'll just be putting yourself on a long thing.
Guys, abi I lie? Can I get a witness?
P:S - Tomorrow, I'll be doing a blogpost titled "10 STUPID THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG". You don't wanna miss it for anything. Xoxo
For feedback, comments and enquiries, email me on graceyokoye@yahoo.com
A lot of ladies get caught up in a web of confusion with guys who they think have got a thing for them only to have their bubbles busted later on when the guy goes on to date or even marry another lady eventually. If you've ever been in this situation, I sympathise with you. If you haven't, then this post will keep you from such entanglements. Bottom line is - This post is helpful to us all. So, without much ado, here are 5 signs that guy is not into you as much as you think he is.
#1 - YOU DO MOST OF THE CALLING
Yes beau, if you seem to be calling, bbming, whatsapping, or texting more than he does, it's not because he's so busy as he claims; it's simply because you're not a priority for him as he is to you. Believe me, there are other people in his life he calls 24/7 despite his busy schedule and the reason why he calls you once in a blue moon is because you're probably not on his priority list. Wake up my dear! When a man is into you, his calls and messages will prove it; he'll do everything to stay in touch with you. No matter how busy he is in the day, he'll bridge the gap by reaching out to you at night/weekends.
#2 - HE CALLS YOU HIS SISTER AND TREATS YOU LIKE ONE
Aunty mi, if for the past few months or years, he still calls you his sister and keeps treating you like one, it's because that's the box he has put you into in his life. Yes he may start out calling you sister, but if he's into you, your identity in his life should have changed by now to "girlfriend / fiancée". No one marries their sister, at least not in this generation.
#3 - HE'S NEVER OFFICIALLY ASKED YOU OUT
Some guys are in the habit of leading girls on by doing and saying nice things without defining their motives. Don't assume things; the fact that he's acting all nice to you and you have feelings for him doesn't mean the feelings are mutual. Save yourself the heart break dear. Before he wastes your time any further, sit him down and ask him to clarify if he has interest in you and whatever he says will determine your next line of action.
#4- HE SEEKS YOUR ADVICE ON HOW TO GET, HANDLE OR UNDERSTAND LADIES
If this is your case, congratulations! You have just been friend zoned and you're now his special adviser on women matters. This should make you happy if you're getting paid for your services but considering the fact that you would love to have him for yourself, it is just another sign that he's not that into you for the time being (at least not to the extent of having a relationship with you).
#5 - HE'S ALWAYS TRYING TO HOOK YOU UP
Yes oooo, if he's always introducing you to friends in order to hook you up with them, it's obvious you don't mean much to him. What a man wants so much, he keeps for himself.
#6 - YOU'RE HIS REBOUND CHICK, BOREDOM KICKER
If he only calls you to hang out with him when he's bored / during weekends, and has never tried to introduce you to his family members or parents, he's not that into you. He sees you as a boredom kicker or relaxation mate - daz all. If the only time he shows up frequently in your life is when his girlfriend just left him, congratulations. You're on your way to becoming his rebound chick. All that is needed is throwing in some bedmatics and bam! You're officially his rebound chick.
SO WHAT DO I DO???
The phrase "he's not that into you" shows that he likes you on some level but doesn't like you enough to date you or have a serious romantic relationship with you. Hanging around him for TOO LONG hoping he'll change his mind will only end in a broken heart and many tears. Find a suitable day and time and ask him what you mean to him and what his intentions are towards you. If he's been shy and scared all this while, he'll pick up the bait and tell you how he truly feels. If he's put you in the friend or sister zone, he'll tell you plainly so you can find another guy who shares your feelings. Any which way, he'll tell you his CHURCH MIND and save you precious time. 2015 is not the year to waste time pining after a guy who's not that into you hoping he'll change his mind while other guys are interested in you. And if you insist on fasting and praying so he starts liking you, please do. But remember that prayer is not witchcraft used in manipulating someone to love you. If he eventually starts loving you, it'll be because it's in line with God's will for you. Sometimes, stepping out of the friend zone and out of his life eventually makes him realise how much you mean to him. Whatever you do, don't wait there idly hoping he comes around while years are passing - you'll just be putting yourself on a long thing.
Guys, abi I lie? Can I get a witness?
P:S - Tomorrow, I'll be doing a blogpost titled "10 STUPID THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG". You don't wanna miss it for anything. Xoxo
For feedback, comments and enquiries, email me on graceyokoye@yahoo.com
Nice one! #TBW x
ReplyDeleteThanks Toyin
DeleteAwesome piece @Gracey...this is true, straight and frank talk most ladies never get to come to terms with!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Patrick. I appreciate all the love and encouragement.
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