Friday, April 17, 2015

HANDLING A TOXIC PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP Pt 1

Dedicated to those who find themselves in a toxic relationship they can't get out of... 


All through this week, we've been taking a look at toxic relationships and today, I'll like to take it to a whole new level. But first of all, I'll like to clarify what the topic of the day means. When I say 'toxic permanent relationship', I'm referring to permanent relationships in your life such as a biological relationship (family) or a covenant relationship (marriage) that have become toxic and poisonous to your overall well being. It's easier to handle a toxic relationship when you're single and dating (a temporary relationship). In such a case, if you've tried to sort out the issue with your partner and things are still not working, the next step is to call off the relationship (a broken courtship, they say, is better than a broken marriage) . However, when it's a permanent relationship, it's an entirely different ball game. You don't have the luxury of calling of the relationship and due to this, finding a solution takes a different route.


If you're currently in a toxic marriage, or a toxic family relationship, the first thing I'll like you to know is that you're not in a hopeless situation. God is able to heal your marriage and family and restore it. It doesn't matter how long your marriage or family relationship has been toxic, he is able to turn things around. Maybe you've prayed and prayed about it, and instead of things changing, the toxicity actually increased; maybe the situation currently looks sooo hopeless and you've said to yourself 'things will never change'. But I've come to let you know that it's not yet time to give up. God is able to turn your situation around in Jesus name.


FIRST THINGS FIRST
Proverbs 13:12 says hope deferred makes the heart sick...
Truly, enduring a toxic relationship erodes many things from us (see EFFECTS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP). And when it's a permanent relationship and the situation has been so for a while, we lose the one thing that keeps us going in trying times - HOPE. And without hope, you will not make it through the tunnel you're in to the miracle at the end of the tunnel. So before I show you how to manage the situation and secure God's help, I need you to get your hopes back up. Here are a few scriptures I need you to think about deeply and take them as they are without doubting. Take them as God's word concerning your situation; take them as God speaking to you directly.

1. Matthew 19:26 - But Jesus beheld them (insert your name here) , and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.
2. Mark 9:23 - Jesus said unto him (insert your name here), If you can believe, all things are possible to him that believes.
3.John 11:23 Jesus said unto her, your brother (your marriage or family relationship, though currently toxic) shall rise again (shall be restored to perfect condition).
4. John11:25 Jesus said unto her (insert your name), I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believes in me, though he were dead (though his situation is terrible and hopeless and seemingly unchangeable), yet shall he live (he shall have the opposite).

Let these scriptures stir up hope in you and cause faith to rise up in you. For 450 yrs, Israel cried out for a change in their situation of slavery in Egypt without a change. However, a day came and God turned things around. You may have been in that toxic marital or family relationship for longer than you can remember but God is about to shock you this time. Healing is on the way for your situation in Jesus name. Rejoice!!!

You're not unfortunate or unlucky for being in that toxic marriage or family relationship. God has a way out. Just as God turned around Mary and Martha's hopeless situation, he will turn yours around. Read John 11 verse 1-45 to understand what they went through and spark up your hope. Tomorrow, I will share with you practical hr y ways to handle a toxic permanent relationship and secure your miracle. You don't have to leave your marriage or get divorced. You don't have to run away from the toxic situation in your family. God can turn the tables around in your favour. Xoxo



Keep a date with us tomorrow for tips on how to handle a toxic permanent relationship.

Are you in a toxic relationship? Do you have any relationship questions? I'm only an email away. Email me on graceyokoye@yahoo.com

Read related posts
SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

EFFECTS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

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