HOW TO BE FRUSTRATED

HOW TO BE FRUSTRATED

Oops… did she just say that? Oh yes I did.

Most of the times, we aren’t aware of our thought patterns so we think about stuff that end up frustrating us and ruining our day. Frustration triggers depression and eventually leads to loss of faith. (I’m quite guilty of this myself…don’t tell anyone). 

 

The pattern looks like this: you think of something that gets you frustrated and depressed. Later, you begin to wonder why you’re feeling depressed because you’ve long forgotten what you thought about. So I thought: “maybe if we exposed how to be frustrated, we would win this battle of the mind”? And that’s how I landed on this post. Long story short, let’s dive into the ways to get frustrated because when we know them, we’ll be able to decipher how not to get frustrated, right?

1)    THINK OF THE PAST

Oh yes! If you want to be frustrated, think of the past 24/7. Think about those who hurt and cheated on you. Think about the mistakes you made. Think about the losses you incurred. Think about those hurtful things mum and dad did to you. I guarantee you, by the time you’re done; you’ll be 100% miserable.

2)   THINK ABOUT PROBLEMS AND FEARS

Aha! Think about the problems you’re facing. Think about those fears you have. Think about the what-ifs….what if I never find a man to love me? What if I get sick tomorrow, who’ll take care of me? How am I going to settle this dept? Maybe God doesn’t love me anymore? Does God really exist? What if my boy friend is cheating on me? Just think about it all and see how confused, frustrated and depressed you become.

3)   THINK ABOUT YOUR FLAWS AND INADEQUACIES

Think about the fact that you're not tall enough, slim enough, pretty enough or financially buoyant enough. Think about the fact that you got short hair, a big nose, thick lips, a flat bum, a flat chest, you name it. Think about the fact that you’re not good at maths (or whatever subject/thing), you don’t have lots of friends, blah blah. You’ll surely be depressed in no time.

4)   THINK ABOUT THINGS YOU CAN’T CHANGE OR CONTROL

When I was much younger, I used to play the “I wish…” game and it always left me feeling frustrated. I wish I was fairer….i wish dad was richer….I wish I lived in a better neighbourhood….you see how the game goes? These were things I had no control over; things I couldn’t change. And the outcome was always the same…frustration.

5)   THINK ABOUT THOSE WHO SEEM TO HAVE IT BETTER THAN YOU DO

Think about those peers of yours who’re now married, got a better paying job, got admission into one school or the other. Just think about those friends who currently have all you ever dreamed of, think about how they’re just “enjoying themselves” and how “it’s not just fair” that you don’t have these things and you’ll land at the place called frustration zone.

There! Now you obviously know how to be frustrated. What about how not to be frustrated? Just avoid thinking about these things and do what Phillipians 4:8 says: …whatsoever things are pure….lovely…of good report…think on these things.

Xoxo.