Time lost cannot be regained; therefore choose what you spend time on.
A
lot of times, we waste our precious time trying to take charge of
enforcing/handling things we have no business getting involved in. Today, I’ll
like to start a series that will open your eyes to things you’re not
responsible for that will eventually free you to focus your precious time and
energy on more productive things. So if you find yourself assuming
responsibility for these things, take a time out and retrace your steps in
order to conserve precious energy and time. Check out a few things you’re not responsible
for below:
#1-Ensuring He Stays
Faithful
Yes
princess, you’re not responsible for ensuring your better half walks in
self-control and stays faithful to you. Don’t be drawn into the deception that
you’re responsible for managing his sexuality and maintaining his self-control.
It takes his personal decision not to cheat on you and God’s grace for him to
stay faithful to you, not any gimmicks you may want to employ. Knowing this
will free you from making futile efforts such as hounding, monitoring and
stalking him to ensure he remains faithful. If he has decided to have a chick
on the side besides you, all the cooking, cleaning, spending time together and
sex you may have to offer won’t stop him.
#2-Making People Like
You
Yea,
I know you’ve been playing this game since you were little, but if you’ve lived
long enough, you ought to have realized it’s a waste of time. Some people won’t
like you even if you broke a leg just to make them happy. Focus your energy on
being yourself; those who like you will like you for who you are. Besides, you
were not created to please people, but to please God. Bottom line: do what you
do because you need to do it, not because you want to please people.
#3-Making A Guy Fall In Love With You
#3-Making A Guy Fall In Love With You
Thanks
to all the crazy tips flying around the internet and in movies, you’ve been
deceived into thinking you can make a guy fall in love with you. Duh! Have you
heard the word attraction? If he’s not attracted to you, he won’t even notice
you. And in case you’re thinking it’s all about having a pretty face or nice
shape, one man’s meat may be another man’s poison. Yes, you could get him to
notice you with all those gimmicks, but he decides if he wants to take you
seriously, ignore you or just have a fling with you. All that those gimmicks
will do is get him to fall in bed with you and probably leave you stranded. His
choice to love you is HIS CHOICE, not a product of your shenanigans or
manipulations.
#4-Making Him Believe
In God
Ehn!
Ehn! Sister, you’re not the Holy Spirit. Your job is to preach the word of God;
the Holy Spirit’s job is to work in him to eventually believe in God. Nagging or
cajoling him to go to church with you won’t cut it. Just like a horse, you may
succeed in dragging him to church, but you can’t force him to truly believe in
what you believe. You can only pray and hope that he comes to the point where
he believes. For more on this ish, click here
to read.
A Few Things You’re
Responsible For
Instead
of wasting your energy and time on these things you’re not responsible for; why
not focus on the things you’re responsible for such as:
- Discovering and fulfilling purpose
- Upgrading your life, knowledge and skills daily
- Becoming a better person/woman daily
- Turning your skills into something financially profitable
- Affecting you world positively
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Are
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