5 Things You Should Understand About Relationships

Thank God It’s Friday!!!

There’s this feeling of ease that comes when you check the date and discover it is Friday. Anyways, today I’ll like to share with you five things you should understand about relationships. Have fun reading and a happy weekend to you.

No one is perfect

It’s okay to have expectations and preferences of what you would love to see in who you eventually date. But you must understand that on this side of the universe, no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and so do you. So in case you’re looking for Mr. Perfect who’s got no flaws or weaknesses, you may end frustrated except you have to create him yourself. Understanding this keeps you from having unrealistic expectations and helps you enter the relationship with the right mindset.

Love is not all that matters

Before you skin me alive, please hear me out first. If by love you mean those warm fuzzy feelings running through you and you think those feelings are the only criteria for getting into a relationship, then you’re wrong. Compatibility also matters. No matter how much you’re in love, without compatibility, you’ll struggle a lot in that relationship and may eventually break up. Compatibility is on different levels: physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually. Your level of compatibility on each of these levels matters a lot and eventually affects the relationship no matter how much in love you are.

It’s important to define it

“As you make your bed, so you lie on it” goes a popular saying. If you take yourself seriously, then you can’t be getting into a relationship without properly defining it. Are you guys just friends, getting to know each other, dating, courting exclusively or just “catching fun”? Whatever be the case, define the relationship. Otherwise in your head, you’ll be thinking “He’s my man” and in his head he’ll be thinking “She’s just a friend”. The fact that he’s calling you sweet names, going to places with you and doing whatever with you may not mean he’s your man. Safe yourself the heart break. As the necessary questions that will let you know what you mean to him and define your relationship.

There will be disagreements and quarrels

No matter how much you love each other, there will reasons to disagree or quarrel. That’s why you need to get conflict management skills because it’s not the disagreements that breed problems, it’s the way you handle it. So instead of wishing or hoping you guys never fight, start prepping yourself for conflict management instead. Decide ahead that there will no name calling, outbursts of rage, malice keeping or throwing of punches. Choose to forgive, overlook and sort out your differences amicably instead.

It takes two to tango

The success of any relationship requires both your efforts. “Two cannot walk together except they agree”. Problems usually arise when one person is working to make the relationship better and the other is non-challant.

P.S: Life is beautiful. Enjoy the relationships in your life. Create happy memories every day. No relationship works by default. You gotta work hard to make it work. Xoxo

Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo

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6 People You Should Keep at Arms-Length this Season

Yes o! Evil company corrupts good manners (1 Corinthians 15:33). I don’t know about you o. But as for me, I have a destiny to fulfill and a dream/vision to chase till it becomes a reality. The company you keep determines to a very large extent how far you will go/rise to in life. It’s time for you to examine and re-evaluate the people who are around your life to see which ones will remain and which ones you will have to distance yourself from.

To make it easier for you, I made a list of 6 people you should keep far from your life this season. In case you’re wondering what season we’re in, this is the season of fulfilling destiny/purpose. Now to the list…

1) The Discourager

Aha! A discourager is anybody who never encourages you each time you mention your dream/plans. He or she always criticizes your dreams and tells you to “face reality” because “that will never happen” or tells you to move on to more serious things. In fact, the more you hang out with such a person, the more you begin to doubt your dreams and abilities.

2) The Time Waster

Aka Jaiye-Jaiye Prefect. This kind of person is usually a fun person. He or she adds spice to your life bringing fun, laughter and creating wonderful memories. However, when you have serious tasks lined up and a target to achieve or you need quiet time to think things through, such a person usually becomes a time-waster coming up with all sorts of time-wasting activities. What’s more, if you refuse to go with them, they take offense and blackmail you with “Eeeeeh. If it was me, I would have done this for you” until you give in.

3) The Vagabond

This kind of person has no sense of direction presently, hasn’t discovered the purpose for his life, is not chasing any dream and just does whatever he/she can lay his hands on. Each time he/she sees you doing something related to your dream, they sound like this “You and this your ……… sef. Na everyday you dey do this thing. Abeg no kill your sef o. Rest small now”. The fact that you’re focused is a threat to them because it reminds them that they have no sense of direction.

4) The Idea-Thief

Or should I say stealer..lol. This is that person in your life who “copies” every idea you come up with. He/she has copied many of your little concepts and ideas in the past. Now that you’re ready to move higher, expect more copying and idea-stealing on a higher and more painful level.

5) Non-Supportive Boyfriend

With all the hostility around us as we chase our dreams and fulfill destiny, who needs a non-supportive boyfriend who adds salt to injury? We need the people closest to us and the people who mean the most to us to support our dreams. Having a boyfriend who’s also an “enemy” of your dreams or destiny is heart breaking. Despite all your pleas for his support, if he has chosen to be a non-supportive boyfriend, you should have a re-think on his status as your boyfriend.

6) Tale-Bearers 

Aha! I’m talking about all those people who always bring stories of “he said, she said” to you. They always seem to hear when people talk about you and have commissioned themselves as tale-bearers to faithfully bring such info to you. What’s more, they know how to amplify the story and spice it up till you’re all worked up with rage and ready to declare war. You don’t need all that info. You have a race to run and a destiny to fulfill. Preserve your ears and energy for better things.

Why Do I Need To Keep Them at Arms-Length

What?!! Didn’t you know already? It’s because they are not helpful but toxic to your purpose, dreams and destiny. The more you hang around them, the more your strength and zest for life and destiny is depleted. Hebrews 12:1 says “...let us lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily besets us and run with patience the race set before us”. All these people are currently weights in your life that make running on the tracks of destiny more difficult than it should be. Now I’m not asking you to start keeping malice with them but you need to put some distance between you and them if you must make progress. Find a way to control and minimize your contact with them. If can’t do that, protect your dreams from them. Stop telling them stuff related to your dreams since you know they always discourage you or try to steal your ideas. And when they bring all those dem-say dem-say gist or time-wasting gimmicks, tell them you no longer have time for that.  

What about those you need to surround yourself with if you must achieve your dreams and fulfill destiny, we’ll talk about that some other time. Till then, xoxo.

P.S: Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo

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