Sister 2 Sister: September 2015

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

BEING IN CHRIST IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO DO THESE THINGS

Hello princess,
Today's post is dedicated to all daughters of God who are meant to be a blessing to their generation and a crown to their husband...

It's a wonderful thing to be in Christ. In fact, some days I wish he'll wisk me away to be with him so I can follow him wherever he goes. But, that's not happening soon cuz he intentionally put us on earth for a purpose. As much as we would love to spend hours in church, doing the things of God, studying the word or praying, there has to be a balance. Sometimes, we use our being in Christ as an excuse to do certain things we ought not to do and that's what we will be talking about today.
Happy reading.

#1 - Dressing Shabbily
Neglecting your dressing simply because you've given your life to Christ does not make you holy or increase your level of holiness. Ceasing to use perfume, beautify your face, or your hair does not increase your spirituality. It only makes you look unkempt and repulsive and will disconnect you from opportunities that will come. Imagine if Joseph failed to cut off his beard and clean himself up before going to see Pharaoh, he wouldn't have gotten audience with him. When Queen Esther finished fasting for 3 days, she had the sense to look good before going to see the king, even though he was also her husband. Selah

#2 - Dressing Irresponsibly
It is true that God looks on the heart while man looks on the outward. It is also true that what you wear does not delete or increase the Jesus in you. But the bible says in Mark 9:42 And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea...
It's simple - though we're free in Christ, when your dressing / action begins to cause another to fall, you have lent yourself to the tempter and you're inviting the displeasure of God. As much as it depends on you, do not be the reason why someone falls, especially when it has to do with your dressing.

#3 - Failing to get wisdom

Wisdom is the PRINCIPAL THING. It's okay to fast for 40 days and do all those activities but if you must navigate successfully through life on earth, you need wisdom. Even if God gives you the right man you've been praying about, you will lose him eventually because of a lack of wisdom. Wisdom doesn't fall on you by chance. It is not a default human character. You seek wisdom through revelation from the word of God, the Holyspirit, relevant books, experienced wise men and women etc. There is wisdom for marriage, finances, motherhood, etc. Your godliness is not enough. Your ability to quote scriptures is not enough. Pray for wisdom. Seek wisdom.

#4 - Neglect your relationship or marriage
God is our number 1 always. But, he cares about our human relationships and he also cares about your marriage. In the name of giving time to God, we often neglect our human relationships until it gets to the point where we need to call 911. There's time for everything under the sun. If you're finding it hard to strike a balance, ask God to give you the grace you need. As busy as Jesus was, he still had time to attend weddings and visit friends as the need arose. It's time to strike a balance dear. Find a way to carry your loved ones along.
Neglecting your husband's needs sexually and otherwise does not give God glory. If he who cannot provide for his home is worse than an unbeliever, she who neglects her home is an accomplice of the destroyer. Why? She opens her husband and her home up to the devil by making them vulnerable to attacks.

#5 - Taking your health for granted
We bless God for excellent health and divine healing in Christ Jesus. However, that's no excuse to endanger yourself health wise, eat poorly or overstress yourself. The grace of God is sufficient to keep you and wisdom demands that you understand your body and take care of it appropriately.

Voila!!! Now it's over to you reading this. Can you think of more things? Post them in the comments section.
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Hello precious gem,
It's been awhile since I wrote anything on this blog. Reasons? Nothing in particular. I've just been on a "sabbatical leave" of some sort. Anyway, it's good to be back. In the short while I've been off, a lot of things happened but the most important thing is that ALL THINGS are working together for our good by the invisible hand of God.

So today, I'll be sharing a few not so wise moves guys make that are like shooting oneself in the leg. What are they? You're about to find out. Whether you're a lady or a guy, this post will do you a lot of good.
Here we go:

#1. Not declaring your intentions
Hanging around a lady without declaring your true intentions or defining the relationship is a recipe for ending up in "friend zone". This is okay if that's where you want to end up but if you intend to take the relationship beyond friendship level, you have to let her know. Acting caring and being there for her does not spell out your intentions. Most likely, she has other people doing the same thing! Define that relationship now! Tell her your intentions!! That doesn't guarantee that the answer will be yes, but at least, you'll know you gave it a try and it will make her know you're a man who knows what he wants. Shy guys, take note.

#2 - Not supporting her dreams
Iron sharpens iron. A good relationship should sharpen both parties and make them better. Unfortunately, a good number of guys think that the Woman was created to dance to their whims and caprice; forgetting that she's also a human being with a purpose and dreams too. Not supporting / squashing your woman's dreams makes you an enemy of progress. If she finds someone who loves her and supports her dreams, she'll most likely start tilting to him, no matter the years you've spent together. Even if she stays with you, someday she'll get fed up with everything and that's when midlife crisis sets in (for more on midlife crisis, Google it).

#3 - Not empowering your wife financially
It is a fact that men have their down moments. Every man goes through a time when their current financial affluence goes back to square zero. You can't escape it. But if you empower your wife financially, when that happens, it will cushion the blow because of the financial support that will come from her. Forget that rubbish about women becoming pompous when they make money. That was what kept your father from rising when he fell financially. The left hand is there to help the right hand for a reason.

#4 - Being in a relationship with too many girls at the same time
There's a proverb my mum was very fond of using - too many heaps confuses the chicken. When you are in a relationship with more than one girl, you're bound to enter into confusion when you want to choose a life partner. This is because, every one is good in their own way but it's not everyone who is suitable as a helpmeet for you as a person and it's not everyone's weakness that you can manage. It's even worse when you're having sex with them because you'll be creating too many soul ties that will cloud your judgement eventually. Moreover, you're training yourself to become unfaithful maritally because having gotten used to having more than one woman in your life when single, you'll find it difficult to do otherwise even though you're married.

#5 - Fueling your woman's insecurities
You have the power to feed the Woman in your life so she can become better or fuel her insecurities. Telling the Woman in your life that you like a tall woman when she's short, a hairy woman when she's hairless, a fair woman when she's dark is you fueling her insecurities. You're unknowingly insinuating that you prefer someone else and you are only managing her. The next time she sees you laughing with a tall, hairy or fair lady, she'll start feeling insecure. She may even start accusing you of liking the lady or cheating on her and by then, you'll be wondering why she's acting all hysterical. If she's not good enough for you, leave her alone for someone who will cherish her.

One Love
To my beloved brothers, I write not as an accuser or a judge but as a sister who's sharing with you helpful tips that will make you a better man. So if you find yourself caught up in this move, receive grace from God to become better.
To my sisters, this is not a license to witch-hunt a brother. Just share this post with the brothers in your life to bless them.Xoxo