Hehehehehe. I’m
sure your thoughts have been running wild trying to decipher how this blogpost
would go. Just chill eh! You’re about to catch the whole gist soon…
In the ideal
world, everyone ought to say what they mean. Unfortunately, in the world we
live in, people say one thing and mean an entirely different thing all
together. For example, in many African cultures, it’s a normal thing to say
“come and eat” not because they want you to really eat with them but out of
courtesy. The words “I LOVE YOU” have caused a lot of trouble in recent times
because what one party has in mind, when saying it, is totally different from
what the other party perceives as the intended meaning. When it comes to these
three words, and how men use them with the opposite sex, TIMING (the time and
scenario in which the statement is made) is what determines the actual meaning
of the words. Taking the words literarily without considering the TIMING when
these words are used is what leads to maximum frustration later. So, I’ll be
bringing up typical scenarios where the opposite sex may use these words and
the shade of meaning in such scenarios. If you’re sensitive, you will
understand much more than I’ll say. Leggo!
Scenario 1: Just meeting you for the first time
Mature and serious
minded guys do not use “I LOVE YOU” when they’re just meeting you for the first
time. This is because they understand that it is not realistic to love someone
you don’t know. “LIKE”, yes; “LOVE”, that’s too soon. The set of guys who say
“I LOVE YOU” when they just meet you are usually immature in age or players.
In this case, I LOVE YOU means:
*I like your
physical appearance
*Girl, you’re hot
*I’d like to hook
up with you
Scenario 2: In the early days of dating/relationship
When he says I
LOVE YOU here, it is actually means “I love the part of you I have come to
know”. It is not a promise to love you
forever. Don’t get it twisted!!! You are still getting to know each other
and as events unfold, he will have to decide if he should continue loving you
and so will you. That is why it is possible to break off the relationship after
months or years when one party starts discovering things they can’t tolerate.
Scenario 3: During illicit sex (and other activities
that lead to it)
Just in case you
don’t know it, lemme spell it out. Illicit sex is simply sex with someone
you’re not married to. When those three golden words “I LOVE YOU” pop out
during illicit sex, it actually means “I enjoyed having sex with you; let’s do
this some other time” “You’re sweet in bed”. Don’t get it twisted. If he loves
you that much, he would make you his wife, instead of having illicit sex with
you.
Scenario 4: When you help at the time he needs it the
most
It’s a natural
thing to love those who help you. Who wouldn’t??? So when the golden words show
up in this scenario, it actually means – Thank You, I really appreciate you for
helping me.
Other scenarios
include:
Before He Discovers Your Weaknesses
I LOVE YOU = I love the part of you I know. I’ll re-evaluate my statement after I get to see if I can handle your flipsides.
I LOVE YOU = I love the part of you I know. I’ll re-evaluate my statement after I get to see if I can handle your flipsides.
After a fight/misunderstanding
I LOVE YOU = I’m sorry
After cheating on you
I LOVE YOU = I’m sorry, it was just a fling. You’re my only main chick.
After You’ve Broken Up
I LOVE YOU = I miss having you. Can we hook up again?
I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU = You’re dear to me but we can no longer be together. Move on! I wish you well in all you do.
When he proposes
I LOVE YOU = After all these months/years of relating with you, I’ve finally chosen you to be my woman for life, God-willing.
When He’s Married You
I LOVE YOU = I love you enough to commit to you, spend my entire lifetime with you, take care of you till death do us part.
These are just a
few scenarios. Don’t get it twisted! Otherwise, you may end up saying “But I thought you said you loved me!!! You
lied!!!” No baby beau, he didn’t lie. You just didn’t understand what he
meant when he said those golden words. Now you know what he means when he says
I love you. Abi na lie I talk??? Brothers in da house, what say you?
P.S: No offence,
disrespect or discredit intended to the male folk via this post. The same thing
also applies to ladies too. It’s not every time they use those golden words
that they actually mean what they say. Who knows, maybe if I get enough ginger
from you guys, I’ll do the flip side of this blogpost for you guys titled WHAT
SHE MEANS WHEN SHE SAYS I LOVE YOU. xoxo
Evidence Grace is
the founder and head-blogger at Sister 2 Sister Nigeria. She's
passionate about seeing people get it right in life, destiny and
marriage. A woman of many gifts, and talents, she is focused on
fulfilling God's purpose for her life, becoming ALL God has
fore-ordained her to be and spreading the gospel to the ends of the
earth. Her marital status?Keep your fingers crossed.
Got questions, observations or comments? Wanna be a guest blogger here? Email me on graceyokoye@yahoo.com
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