Happy weekend to all newbies and faithfuls of the
blog! This post is actually a sequel to an earlier juicy post 5 reasons a good woman will leave you.
As I promised, in this post, the guys are letting us understand the reasons why
a good man will leave you while yours truly will keep her lips sealed and
listen (yes today I’m a student on this post). Two guest bloggers Hussein Jethro Sule and Dalan Cbn Dalan will give us their 5
reasons why a good man will leave any woman. Not only that, the views of a few
guys on the matter that were kind enough to give us their responses will also
be featured here. Have fun reading this eye opening post.
Warning: It’s gonna be a long read because of the views
of different guys sampled here but I guarantee you, you won’t regret reading it
one bit. So, brace yourself up and read, read, read!
Hussein
Speaks…
A good man is a man that is good and if a good man
is dating any woman I do not see any reason why he would leave her except she
is so carnally minded. But here are some tips to help the ladies:
- When you do not support his vision: A man who has vision will always desire a woman who can support that vision not destroy it. But where the woman is always kicking against his vision via words and actions, he’ll stop discussing it with her and that’s a sign that she is on her way out of his life.
- When you are troublesome: If you always nag, quarrel and get angry with your man at every instance, get ready to leave his life. The bible says it in these words “it’s better to dwell in a corner of a house top, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” You don’t need to contend with your man, understand him and you will know how to handle him.
- Pride and selfishness: If you are a proud woman and not ready to change, you will soon fall because pride goes before a fall. If you always go to the extent of exhibiting pride to him and you’re too obstinate to give in to change; he might just let you be. So also, if all you think about is “me, myself and I” you will soon lose him. This attitude makes him so sure you’ll be selfish to your own family and extend it to his family too and ultimately, his children and this is one thing he won’t take from you.
- Lies: If you are fond of lies, a good man will leave you. A good man is a man who loves God; God hates lies and a good man hates lies too. When you lie about virtually everything; you lie about your whereabouts, you lie about what’s happening, you lie about what you are doing. Aahh! Woman you are not just a liar, you are a LIE.
- Infidelity: If you want to “spread your hands and taste the waters” then be ready to lose your man. You can’t be jumping from one bed to another and expect to settle on the bed of a good man. He will never allow you. Marriage is not the cure for fornication; renew your mind and stay with God, not another relationship. If you still want to keep measuring/tasting men or looking for a suitable match for yourself; you will not get a good man and if you do, your character will not keep him.
I want to believe that this has taught you a good
lesson; note your weaknesses and work on them. God’s mercy erases all messes; if
you’re guilty of any of these. Ask God for His mercy, ask him to forgive you
and help you now and always.
Dalan Cbn
Dalan speaks…
Let me begin by saying that whenever
a discussion or debate on relationships between young men and women comes up, I
don't waste time trying to paint or add cosmetics to it. I always tell singles
like me that relationships that would lead to marriage ought to be practical
and being practical in this context means 'DOING THE RIGHT THING'. Having said
all this, here are some of the Reasons why good and God-fearing men leave their
women.
- Lack of Respect:The truth is that men generally are egoistic. In other words, they have this pride in them that should be respected (privately or publicly) by their girlfriend or wife. You know what, either the late Bob Marley or Lucky Dube (I’m not certain now) said something very profound, which is that where there is respect, then there is love. On the other hand, where there is love without respect, it amounts to hypocrisy. So, women who fail to respect their men may end up losing them to other women who know this secret. I believe that respect is reciprocal but women should learn to respect the man in their life.
- Nagging: Personally, I don't like a nagging woman and I pray + hope I don't meet one as my future wife. So, women should learn to make their men happy, cheerful and use diplomacy when trying to ask them for something.
- Unfaithfulness: Any woman who keeps more than one relationship may end up losing all of them. Remember, a bird at hand is worth thousands in the bush. So, ladies should learn to keep one relationship and nurture it. Failure to do this would make her man look elsewhere.
- Lacking in Initiative: Initiative is the ability to do the right thing without being told. For instance, cooking an irresistibly delicious meal for him, washing some of his clothes some times, supporting him financially when he is down temporarily, giving him a warm hug whenever you meet him, praying for him, advising him to support his family, especially his mum and siblings, treating his family with courtesy and respect, praying sincerely for him are all things a sensitive and wise woman ought to do. Where a lady does all this without being told, it’s hard for a man to ever think of leaving her and where he does leave her, then he is a fool forever and nemesis will catch up with him. But if she does not have the initiative, then her man would be forced to look elsewhere.
Other things are gossip, too much pretence and being lousy.
Now let’s see what the other guys have to say….
Paul speaks…
My 5 reasons why a good man will leave a woman
include:
-Lack of personal vision or dreams on the part of
the woman
-Unwillingness to support my dreams/God’s calling for
my life
-In ability to trust
-Lies
-Disobedience
Nathan speaks…
My 5 reasons why a good man will leave a woman
include:
-Too materialistic and worldly
-Spiritually inconsistent
-Does not support my dreams/aspirations and is not comfortable
with it or supportive
-Lies and inability to trust
-She doesn’t have dreams and aspirations of her own
Andrew
speaks…
My 5 reasons why a good man will leave a woman
include:
-Too cheap
-Always nagging and trying to cajole me into
proposing to her
-Unserious with her life and life in general
-Exhibits bad character such as rudeness,
arrogance, disrespect etc.
Chibuzo
speaks…
My 5 reasons why a good man will leave a woman
include:
-She’s self-willed and hard headed; she feels she
can do whatever she likes
-Unfaithfulness
-Neglects the words of the man and takes him for
granted
-Doesn’t know how talk (lacks manner of approach)
Elijah
speaks…
No relationship ever breaks up due to too much
RESPECT. The major reason a good man will leave a woman is if she’s DISRESPECTFUL.
Ladies should learn to boost their man’s ego VERY IMPORTANTLY.
Justice
speaks…
My opinion on this is:
Lack of humility, dirtiness, unintelligence, the
habit of over-demanding and stinginess as well as lack of sexual skillfulness
are the reasons a man will leave a woman he feels deeply for.
Oya now! You’ve heard it from the guys themselves.
Oh men, na waoh. I notice some issues were kinda recurrent like disrespect,
infidelity, and pride/lack of humility. Ladies, I trust that this post has
opened your eyes in many ways. It will be wise if we all search ourselves to
see if we’re guilty of any of these things before the good men in our lives
start thinking of taking a hike. But seriously, what’s your opinion? Guys, do
you agree with what they said? Ladies, let me know what you think. Comments
Please! Have a lovely weekend.
Got questions, suggestions or private
comments? Wanna reach me? Facing a relationship dilemma and in need of counsel?
I’m just an email away; email me on graceyokoye@yahoo.com
HusseinJethro Sule is the brothers
coordinator and training coordinator of Word WYN. He lives in Abuja.
Dalan Cbn Dalan studied at Nigerian Law
School, Kano and lives in Jos.
