Creating the Change You Seek

The power of the spoken word is one of life’s greatest mysteries. All that you will ever be or accomplish hinges on how you choose to govern what comes out of your mouth. By what you allow to occupy your mind and mouth, you can either lift your life to great heights of success or send it plummeting into realms of failure, sadness, and discontentment. This is why Proverbs 23:7 tells us “for as he thinks in his heart, so is he” and urges us in Proverbs 4:23 “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life”. Matt 12:34-35 even says more using these words: “For whatever is in your heart determines what you say. A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What occupies your mind determines what you predominantly end up saying. 

Because the law of cause and effect is continually at work, there is always an inner cause for every outer effect. Your outer world is a direct result of your inner world. Every circumstance in life is a result of a words and choices—and every choice is the result of a thought. All those things that fill your mind affect, shape and determine what happens in your life. Your thoughts provide the fuel for your words, and your words provide the fuel for your world. It is therefore imperative that you understand and be conscious of the nature of what you are saying. Are you saying anything you feel like, simply because you feel like saying it or you want to “say your mind”? Or are you carefully picking out what you say, knowing that what you say becomes what you see in your life? We would do well to heed the advice of Epictetus, an ancient Stoic philosopher, who once said: “First learn the meaning of what you say, and then speak” and that of Hosea, the prophetic sage of old, who said “For they sow the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind” (Hosea 8:7). 

Hello there! You must take responsibility for what you experience in life. Our lives are the sum total of every word we ever spoke, every choice we’ve ever made, and the things we let happen. If you do not like where you are, you are only one thought, one word, one choice and once action away from turning toward the life you desire. It starts with becoming a master of your thoughts. Watch what you think and sift your thought; filter out anything that you do not want to show up in your future, and focus only on thinking what you truly desire. God wired your thoughts to be powerful so you would be equipped to overcome every obstacle. He fashioned you to create, innovate, strategize, and succeed—and just to be sure, He put His own divine thoughts and nature within you. Put away those negative thoughts and random statements you’re so used to making. Take responsibility for the change you so desire by making sure your thoughts, words, choices and actions align only with the good things you desire which God has already made provision for in his word. Have a lovely weekend. 

Written by Grace Olayinka 

 Grace Olayinka aka "Kharis" is a wonderful woman with a bubbly personality. A lover of God, she's also has an M.A in English and Literary studies. She has a passion for kids and for reaching the ends of the earth with the word of God.

What to Try When You’ve Tried Everything

Hello there,

This post is dedicated to those who’ve done everything they know and things are still not working out; those who are at their wits end and wondering what step to take next…If this situation describes you, here are a few things you may want to try out. Don’t give up just yet; try out the steps listed below and watch how everything will turn around.

Pray About It

Actually, this ought to be the first step you need to try out when things aren’t working. Unfortunately, when we encounter hitches at work, in business or in relationships, we get carried away with what is happening and forget to pray about it. When you pray about a situation, you invite God’s help and intervention and open yourself as well as the situation up to revealed secrets that will turn things around. Aside from that, there’s a special peace that comes from knowing that you’re no longer in it alone because you’ve invoked God’s help.

Seek Counsel

As my pastor Rev. Prince Emmabel once said, there is a difference between advice and counsel. According to him, advice is what you get when you disclose your issues to anyone who cares to listen and it is filled with peoples personal opinion (sometimes myopic and misguided) about how they think you should respond. Counsel gotten from people who are qualified academically, psychologically, experience wise, spiritually etc to handle a particular type of issue or give accurate counsel. Maybe all you’ve sought this while is advice from your peers and people who’re not in the position to give you sound counsel and that’s why you’ve gotten your fingers burnt. He who goes to a dentist to treat his eyes should not complain if he returns home worse; what business does a dentist have with eye treatment??? This time around, take your issue to those who are in the position to give you counsel in business, life matters, marriage matters and etc. Before you go to them, ask the spirit of the Lord to use them to speak to you.

Take Responsibility

When you keep placing the blame on others for the things that happen, it blinds you to how you may have contributed to causing or escalating the issue at hand and what you can do to turn things around. Truthfully, you may have an overbearing and difficult boss, a spouse who has trust or temper issues and it maybe true that the other party is just a troublemaker. Some other person’s carelessness may have landed you in that mess; but if you look carefully to see how you can help the situation, it will suddenly dawn on you what new steps you may have to take. Some situations may not be able to change immediately so we must learn how best to live with and mange them. 

Do Things Differently

I do not know what things you may have tried to salvage that situation already but if what you’ve tried so far isn’t working, you need to try something different. Don’t turn a blind eye to the counsel you received simply because it doesn’t sit too well with you; try it out. After all, you’ve tried so many things and they didn’t work; what do you have to lose? When doctors prescribe a drug and it doesn’t work on a patient despite the fact that it works on others, they try a different drug meant for that ailment; they do not remain stuck trying the previous one. 

Let Go

After you’ve tried all these things and there’s still no turn around, then it’s time to let go. There’s no shame in letting go. Letting go is not the same thing as giving up. Giving up means abandoning all home that there will be a turn around (more like quitting); letting go means relinquishing agitation and worry about how things will turn out and the fact that things are not working and allowing things play out while taking the position of perfect peace. Let go and let God take control; commit everything into God’s hands and stop bothering about it. It will amaze you how things will turn out.

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