Handling Rejection

This post doesn’t only apply to relationships; it also applies to facing rejection in every sphere of life. Rejection is something which if not properly handled, may lead to momentary depression, loss of confidence and zeal to move on. Rejection feels like the sting of a bee. Whether you’re male or female, the feeling of rejection hurts just the same way. Keeping these things in mind will make you handle rejection better so that it doesn’t steal your zeal for life or leave you depressed:

Don’t take it personal: For whatever reason you have been rejected, it has nothing to do with you. Nothing is wrong with you. It’s about the preference of the other party involved. It’s not that you’re not good enough; it’s just that you’re not what they were looking for. For instance, I prefer Coke to Fanta so if you serve me Fanta, I will reject it. It doesn’t mean Fanta is not good enough; it just means I prefer Coke. Same thing applies to you.

It's a free world: Yes, it is a free world and they have the right to choose and have their own preferences. One man’s meat is another man’s poison, they say. If they don’t like or want you, some other person thinks you’re amazing and suitable the way you are. Just wait till you find them.

It's not about what you did or didn’t do: A relationship that wasn’t meant to last will crash, no matter what you do or don’t do. So when it ends, take comfort in the fact that you gave it your best shot and stop beating yourself up about what you did or didn’t do.

Don’t grow cold: Hey! Hey! Hey! Don’t withdraw into your shell because of what happened; you’ll just end up missing out on the better things God has in store for you. Stay sweet and cheerful; don’t get bitter.

Open your heart again: How else will you experience better days if you don’t open your heart? Open your heart to love. Open your heart to the same place where you experienced rejection. Give it another try cuz your next try may just make you smile. 

You’re valuable, useful, desirable, a solution and a blessing. Just like a picture is useless to a blind man, there are some people who won’t find you useful because they are blind to your value. Just reposition yourself and the right people will perceive your worth and receive you.

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3 Misconceptions People Have About Starting a Business

The shortest way to successfully build anything is to start and continue till you finish it.

 Written By: Tammy Bankins (Guest Blogger)

This post began as a question someone asked which went thus: “are there any shortcuts in business?” The question got me laughing a little and of course, my answer was “no, there aren’t any shortcuts in business”. This question stems from a lot of misconceptions people have about starting a business; a by-product of the get-rich-quick / be-my-own-boss syndrome that often hits a lot of us. I have seen a countless number of people jump into business, abandoning their current jobs, hoping for better times only to get disappointed along the line. Some of them even ended up losing all their life savings in the process. Usually, the million dollar question that pops up in their minds at that point is: “what happened?” Most times, when a lot of people get in the world of business, they have their mind centered on how much profit they would make and how soon these profits would start rolling in; totally oblivious of the fact that every business has its risks, low moments and high points. 

You see, business isn’t like preparing noddles! Neither is it like art where a mistake can become an extension of the artist’s creativity and probably even hit the jackpot! Business is a process!  It’s like building a house and it requires that you commit to it for the long haul otherwise, all you’ll be left with is a trail of abandoned projects (businesses). Sincerely speaking, the whole process of building a business can be quite tasking and boring, especially at the initial stage. Here are 3 out of the many misconceptions people usually have about starting a business.

#1-It’s My Passion So It’s Going To Be Easy

It’s okay to get into a business simply because you have passion for it. But, if you think the process of getting that business established is going to be an easy one simply because it’s your passion, then you’ll be in for a shocking surprise. I hear people say “this is something I have passion for so it’s not gonna take me time to make it in this business." But the truth is that in business, your passion is the weakest guarantee of a quick rise. Why? Because passion cannot withstand the heat of business! Passion cannot confront or withstand the boredom/down moments that accompany business (a basic component of all businesses). Passion gives you momentary excitement which is good because it enables you kick-start the business. However, it is commitment, tenacity and diligence that get you through in the long run. The same thing also applies to talent; neither passion nor talent alone is sufficient to make you last in business. Tiger Woods may have been a born golfer, yet, he worked harder than average golfers to rise to his current position. Even if the business idea burning in you is something inborn, to become a high flyer, you must pay the price to make it work just like a person who wasn’t born with such a gift.

#2-It’s All About the Daily or Monthly Cash Flow

The thought of having something (a business) that generates extra income is quite an exhilarating one; a propelling force for most people’s attempt at business. Talk about having multiple streams of income…I mean, who doesn’t need the extra cash every now and then? We all do!  But before you get so excited because you heard your friend boast about how he makes N30,000 every day from starting with just a N10,000 capital, the question you should be asking them is how long it took them to get to that point and the things they had to endure or go through. Mind you, most people boast about gross earnings not their net earnings after salary deductions, tax, maintenance costs and even tithe! How much a business generates daily or monthly shouldn’t be your strongest motivation for plunging into it. This mindset of what you stand to gain opens the door and makes you vulnerable to fraudsters who are out to get you and your money with sweet promises of a quick return on your capital (profit). If all you want is to make money fast, there are two places I guarantee this way of thinking will lead you to: the police cell across the street and a hospital bed at the clinic closest to you.

#3-Huge Capital = Large Scale Profits

One popular misconception people have about business is that starting a business on a large scale with a huge capital guarantees huge profit margins instantly. With this in mind, they raise a large amount of money and start big only to end big and in pieces! The fact that you have all the capital it takes to start is a good thing, but that is no guarantee for quick returns. As you learn to master the ropes of your new business, you’ll only be making the expected errors on a larger scale which equals larger losses. You don’t need to borrow huge sums of money borrow or empty your life savings to start a business (especially if it’s a business you’re not so familiar with or you’re new in business) just because you want to hit it big instantly. Start with what you have and make mistakes on a small scale while you learn from them and your business eventually grows stronger, making more profit with time.

A Few More Words

• Make out time to nurture whatever you’ve invested your money into.

• Don’t be in a haste to “hammer” or make it big instantly.

• Follow the process, stick with the boredom and learn to become better at the business.

All through my business career, I have learnt the hard way that not all businesses make you profit from the first shot. Some businesses you venture into will build your creativity, others will build your persistence and aggression, then suddenly, the money begins to flow in and you become what people erroneously call an "overnight success". You are a success story waiting to happen. Just hang in there; learn all you can and don’t look for any shortcuts to success/making it big because there are none.

Tammy Bankins is a young Nigerian business man who has a passion for business and helping those who want to start their own business with useful tips garnered from his experience in the world of business.

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