Actions speak louder than words;
you’ll perceive in actions what you couldn’t perceive in words.
In case
you haven’t yet noticed, humans are actors by nature (and I mean all human
beings including yours truly). We may feel something but act in a totally
different manner. We say things we don’t really mean for reasons know to us and
even make empty exaggerated promises. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier if we all
acted the way we truly felt and said what we truly meant? Sorry to burst your
bubble…it wouldn’t be any easier or why do you think people do things just to
“fulfill all righteousness” or to “let peace reign”?
Some
folks call ladies “gullible” because they say we believe what we hear blindly, especially
in matters of relationship. As derogatory as that sounds, I guess what they
mean is that we sometimes believe what we hear and see without reading between
the lines (watching out for unspoken gestures and reflex actions). Anyone can
say anything, make promises or even swear to you by God. Anyone can fake words
and even actions sometimes but you’ll never go wrong watching their
spontaneous, unplanned, reflex actions and non-verbal communicative gestures.
What
Do I Mean By Fruits?
The title
of this blogpost is actually the bible (actually Matthew 7:16). “Fruits” in
this context mean unplanned words, actions and reactions and even gestures. If
you understand how fruits grow on trees, fruits
don’t show
up immediately, they show up after a period of time. The fruits of a tree tell us two
things:
- The identity of the tree
- How fruitful the tree is
What does this mean? If you’re not going to
end up “gullible”, “deceived” and “hood winked”, then you need to watch of for
the fruits of the people you interact with. This in turn will help you know:
- Who they really are and not who they say they are.
- How they respond and act in different situations.
- If they keep their words and promises can be trusted, and you can view them as men or women of their words.
You
Need the Gift of Time
Time is such
a gift; time proves all things. If only you would give it more time to be sure
who they are and if they can be trusted, then you’ll be saving yourself a lot
of trouble and heartache. What am I saying? I’m not saying you shouldn’t give
people the benefit of the doubt, by all means do. But while you listen to what
they say, allow the gift of time reveal things about them that are carefully
hidden.
Everyone puts their best foot forward in the early stages, but time
reveals the other not so good foot. Don’t be in haste; and just like a rotten
fish that has no hiding place, you’ll get to discover the true colour with time.
To be in a haste to give all your trust without checking the trustworthiness of
who you’re dealing with is to be in a haste to be deceived, hurt, and
heartbroken. Matt 10:16 says…”be wise as
serpents and gentle as doves…” Hello!!! You gotta watch out for the fruits
always in everything you do; before you make decisions, before you call that
person “friend”, before you call him “my man”.
You
Need to Use Your Intuition
Ladies are
naturally gifted with an accurate intuition. The problem is, we hardly listen
to it. Have you ever felt somehow about something or someone and dismissed your
feelings as unreal only to discover after all that you were right from the
beginning? You actually disregarded your intuition. Pay attention to how your
intuition works over time and learn to trust it. It may be a feeling, a knowing
or a feeling of repulsiveness…whatever it is, watch it and learn to trust it. However,
your intuition may sometimes be coloured by feelings of fear, jealousy,
suspicion and past experiences. Make sure to question where what you feel is
coming from to make sure it is not affected by any of these.
The
Holy Spirit is Higher than Your Intuition
In the game
of life and knowing people by their fruits, if intuition is effective, the Holy
Spirit is much mooooooore effective than the sharpest intuition. He is a
revealer of secrets; even the most carefully hidden secret masked by skillful
acting. Get to know him, follow his subtle promptings, and trust him even more than
you trust your intuitions. For more help on not falling prey to deceitful
actions, click here to read “Before you reveal that secret” and here to read “Man Check: Is he who you think he is”.
P:S Have an
awesome weekend. On the 17th of June, Yours Truly will be a year
older. Can’t wait to pop the poppables on that day for the gift of life.
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