This
is a sequel to a post I did months ago on this blog. In the previous post, I
shared the first six signs that show you’re not ready for marriage and today,
I’ll be sharing the remaining six signs. To view the first part of this
blogpost, click here. Without much ado,
let’s dive into it.
#7- You’re not Ready to
Take S**t
You
remember all those rantings of yours that sound like this “I’m not going to
take s**t from anyone oooo” and “if my husband/wife tries that eh, I’ll beat
the hell out of him/her or give it to him fire for fire”? Those things are what
single people say until they get married and discover that to stay married, you
have to learn to be tolerant and that involves putting up with a lot of s**t
from your spouse, in-laws and even your kids. No one is perfect on this side of
the universe, everybody comes with a dose of s**t that they dish out from time
to time. People who are ready to get married learn to live with such.
#8- You’re Waiting for
A Perfect Man
Oya
ooo, no shoot me abeg. I know you want to find the man that is perfect for you
but that is different from wanting to find a perfect man. There is no perfect man or woman anywhere, waiting to find one will
have you waiting for eternity. Everyone, as good as they are, comes with
weaknesses and if you take them, you must take them with both their good and
not so good sides. In case you’ve forgotten, you’re not perfect yourself.
#9- You’re Not Ready to
be Responsible
Why
do you think they use the phrase “settle down” to refer to marriage? Because
marriage is for mature people and it requires you being responsible. You’ve got
to be ready to have and raise kids, handle the bills and attend to all the
responsibilities that come with marriage. It’s not enough to be called the man
or woman of the house, you gotta act like one. Your spouse, kids, family and
even in-laws start looking up to you when you get married and you gotta be
prepared to act accordingly.
#10- Not Ready To Be
Faithful
Now
this one is a biggie. One of the core demands of marriage is faithfulness. No
one likes their spouse cheating on them. If you’re planning to have your cake
and eat it in marriage by being unfaithful then you’re definitely not ready for
marriage. And before you start complaining about how hard it is to stay married
to the same person for life and be faithful, ask those who have gone ahead of
you and they’ll give you useful tips.
#11- Not Ready To Be Open
If
you’re planning to get married and not be open, you’ll be starting on a wrong
footing. While you may want to cite stories of people who tried to be open to
their spouses and it only brought trouble, why not focus on your life and leave
other peoples ish alone instead. It is in your power while dating/courting to
learn how to be open and encourage your would-be spouse to be open. It is only
people who have and intend to have more skeletons in their cupboard that go
into marriage seeking to hide stuff and keep secrets.
#12- You Have Trust
Issues and Can’t Control Your Jealousy
No
relationship or marriage can succeed where trust is broken. If you have trust
issues, get the needed help so you can learn to trust again. All that excessive
display of jealousy will only weary out whoever you’re with. You can’t tie your
spouse down in marriage or stop him/her from relating with the oppose sex. You
guys will have to move to Mars or Jupiter where there is no other human being.
The ability to trust and control your jealousy is a hallmark of maturity that
you must have for a successful marriage.
Voila!
C’est fini! Now that you’ve read all the twelve signs that show that you’re not
ready for marriage, do some soul searching to remove the beam in your eyes
while I do likewise. God help us all.
P.S: Stinginess is
when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it
to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t
tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know
you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. Xoxo
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