5 Things You Should Understand About Relationships

Thank God It’s Friday!!!

There’s this feeling of ease that comes when you check the date and discover it is Friday. Anyways, today I’ll like to share with you five things you should understand about relationships. Have fun reading and a happy weekend to you.

No one is perfect

It’s okay to have expectations and preferences of what you would love to see in who you eventually date. But you must understand that on this side of the universe, no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and so do you. So in case you’re looking for Mr. Perfect who’s got no flaws or weaknesses, you may end frustrated except you have to create him yourself. Understanding this keeps you from having unrealistic expectations and helps you enter the relationship with the right mindset.

Love is not all that matters

Before you skin me alive, please hear me out first. If by love you mean those warm fuzzy feelings running through you and you think those feelings are the only criteria for getting into a relationship, then you’re wrong. Compatibility also matters. No matter how much you’re in love, without compatibility, you’ll struggle a lot in that relationship and may eventually break up. Compatibility is on different levels: physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually. Your level of compatibility on each of these levels matters a lot and eventually affects the relationship no matter how much in love you are.

It’s important to define it

“As you make your bed, so you lie on it” goes a popular saying. If you take yourself seriously, then you can’t be getting into a relationship without properly defining it. Are you guys just friends, getting to know each other, dating, courting exclusively or just “catching fun”? Whatever be the case, define the relationship. Otherwise in your head, you’ll be thinking “He’s my man” and in his head he’ll be thinking “She’s just a friend”. The fact that he’s calling you sweet names, going to places with you and doing whatever with you may not mean he’s your man. Safe yourself the heart break. As the necessary questions that will let you know what you mean to him and define your relationship.

There will be disagreements and quarrels

No matter how much you love each other, there will reasons to disagree or quarrel. That’s why you need to get conflict management skills because it’s not the disagreements that breed problems, it’s the way you handle it. So instead of wishing or hoping you guys never fight, start prepping yourself for conflict management instead. Decide ahead that there will no name calling, outbursts of rage, malice keeping or throwing of punches. Choose to forgive, overlook and sort out your differences amicably instead.

It takes two to tango

The success of any relationship requires both your efforts. “Two cannot walk together except they agree”. Problems usually arise when one person is working to make the relationship better and the other is non-challant.

P.S: Life is beautiful. Enjoy the relationships in your life. Create happy memories every day. No relationship works by default. You gotta work hard to make it work. Xoxo

Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo

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