5 Things You Should Understand About Relationships

Thank God It’s Friday!!!

There’s this feeling of ease that comes when you check the date and discover it is Friday. Anyways, today I’ll like to share with you five things you should understand about relationships. Have fun reading and a happy weekend to you.

No one is perfect

It’s okay to have expectations and preferences of what you would love to see in who you eventually date. But you must understand that on this side of the universe, no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and so do you. So in case you’re looking for Mr. Perfect who’s got no flaws or weaknesses, you may end frustrated except you have to create him yourself. Understanding this keeps you from having unrealistic expectations and helps you enter the relationship with the right mindset.

Love is not all that matters

Before you skin me alive, please hear me out first. If by love you mean those warm fuzzy feelings running through you and you think those feelings are the only criteria for getting into a relationship, then you’re wrong. Compatibility also matters. No matter how much you’re in love, without compatibility, you’ll struggle a lot in that relationship and may eventually break up. Compatibility is on different levels: physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually. Your level of compatibility on each of these levels matters a lot and eventually affects the relationship no matter how much in love you are.

It’s important to define it

“As you make your bed, so you lie on it” goes a popular saying. If you take yourself seriously, then you can’t be getting into a relationship without properly defining it. Are you guys just friends, getting to know each other, dating, courting exclusively or just “catching fun”? Whatever be the case, define the relationship. Otherwise in your head, you’ll be thinking “He’s my man” and in his head he’ll be thinking “She’s just a friend”. The fact that he’s calling you sweet names, going to places with you and doing whatever with you may not mean he’s your man. Safe yourself the heart break. As the necessary questions that will let you know what you mean to him and define your relationship.

There will be disagreements and quarrels

No matter how much you love each other, there will reasons to disagree or quarrel. That’s why you need to get conflict management skills because it’s not the disagreements that breed problems, it’s the way you handle it. So instead of wishing or hoping you guys never fight, start prepping yourself for conflict management instead. Decide ahead that there will no name calling, outbursts of rage, malice keeping or throwing of punches. Choose to forgive, overlook and sort out your differences amicably instead.

It takes two to tango

The success of any relationship requires both your efforts. “Two cannot walk together except they agree”. Problems usually arise when one person is working to make the relationship better and the other is non-challant.

P.S: Life is beautiful. Enjoy the relationships in your life. Create happy memories every day. No relationship works by default. You gotta work hard to make it work. Xoxo

Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo

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3 Things You Need To Get Before You Get a Man…

Shout out to all the wonderful people reading this!!!

Before I get into the post of the day, I’d like to say a huge thank you to the readers of my blog. You make me know I’m not wasting my time or energy. I guarantee you; it’ll only get better as the days pass by. Now, to the post of the day…

Have you ever heard the phrase “Get a Life”? Well, this phrase is a very important one. On the staircase of life, some steps come before others. Even when we describe the steps to getting or doing something, there’s always a step 1, then a step 2 and other relevant steps. No one moves from the cradle to the university. You first have to go through kindergarten / nursery school. In the same way, before you think of getting a man/boyfriend or getting into a serious relationship, there are some things you need to get or do first.

1) Discover Who You Are

It’s important you get to understand who you are before you hook up with anyone. Self-discovery doesn’t come in one day. We discover who we are overtime. Get to know your likes, dislikes, preferences, preferences in a man, deal breakers (things you can’t take in a relationship), weaknesses, boiling points, temperament plus the kind of woman you are. When you discover who you are, it becomes easier to know what kind of man will suit you best.

2) Discover Your Career Path, Purpose or Destiny

What career path will you be taking? What’s your purpose or destiny? You need to have an idea of these. Why? It helps the man coming into your life know if he can accept you knowing fully well that you’ll be doing those things. What one man can handle may be unbearable for another man. What’s more? It saves you the stress of starting a relationship and breaking up simply because he’s not comfortable with your career/purpose.

3) Understand What a Relationship Entails

Getting into a relationship has its own demands, rules and all. You need to understand these and be sure you’re ready for such before you get into one. 

While You Wait, Get a Life

I can’t emphasize this enough. Don’t loaf around like someone with no future just waiting for a man to come and rescue you. Be useful, add value to yourself.  No man wants a “useless” woman (no offence meant; “useless” here refers to one who is not useful for anything) and you don’t wanna become a liability eventually. While you wait, use your life and strengths well. Get a career, get that education, start that business, be good at what you do. Pursue the path of continuous self-improvement, improve your culinary skills.

The Irony of Life

In this time and age we’re in, with all the stuff we see around us and on TV, when we’re young, all we wanna do is jump into a relationship. So, we grab the nearest person who looks cute enough and fulfills our fantasy so we can proudly blab to our peers about the relationship we’re in. But if you’re done with all that hopping from one relationship to the other and you’re finally taking your life and future seriously, then you need to get these three things before you get a man. xoxo

P.S: Stinginess is when you read this and refuse to share it with those you know. Foolishness is when you read it and don’t apply it to your life. Wickedness is when you don’t tell someone how much you’ve been blessed so far by this blog. And I know you’re not stingy, foolish or wicked. xoxo

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