ARE YOU FORCING IT?

It's only in the realm of humans that you see people trying to force something to become another thing. Maybe it's because they've watched too many films showing the use of magic and how one can perform 'wonders', or maybe it isn't. But in reality, no matter how we try to force it, somethings can't be forced. No matter how much you try to force a mango to become an orange, the best you could ever get from any mango would be a mango juice and never orange juice. The same applies to dating relationships.

No matter how hard you try to compel, cajole, manipulate, dictate, suppress or change that person to become your dream man or woman, you're only setting yourself up for disaster eventually. Instead of catching a sanguine and trying to turn him or her into a melancholy, why not just go for a melancholy instead? Instead of buying a bottle of Coke and trying to turn it to Fanta, why not just go for fanta instead??? Relationships are supposed to make people better, not change them into what they are not. If you're trying to change your man or woman to what they're not, you're practicing witchcraft (manipulating things you have no authority over to suit your own purpose) and you're fast becoming an enemy of God who intentionally made them that way for his glory.

Here are a few signs you're forcing it in your relationship.

1. The things you dislike and complain about him or her are more than the things you're cool with.

2. The things that make him happy are the things you detest.

3. You're always nagging, complaining, hoping and praying that he/she will change and the change is not coming.

4. You feel he / she always embarrasses you with certain actions that he / she considers normal.

5. You quarrel more than you relate except when you're in bed.

If this is your reality, you guys are mismatched and you're definitely forcing a square peg in a round hole.

SO WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Singles: See if you can accept and accommodate his / her mannerisms for a life time. If you can't, that's a clear sign you should consider splitting up. If you want to stretch your faith, pray about those things that give you concern in he / she and give it 6 months to 1 year to see if there's improvement. If at the end of this, there's no change, it's time to end it. The longer time you waste in a wrong relationship with an unsuitable partner, the more you miss out on finding the right partner.

Married folks: If you get married and discover you’re practically forcing it, you're already bound by the vows you made so there is no easy way out. However, God is able to help you  out. Pray for your mate that God will open his / her eyes to the need to change. Ask for grace to love them and accept them the way they are, just like God accepts you the way you are. One of two things will happen. It's either God will change them eventually or he will strengthen you to the point that all those sour points don't bother you or steal your joy anymore. Either way, it's a win-win situation when you take it to God. But, you'll need lots of patience to successfully go through it all. Xoxo.

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WALKING IN STILLETTOS

It's an accepted norm in the beauty world that stillettos add beauty, elegance, and sophistication to a lady. As beautiful as a pair of stilettos look on the outside, and as elegant as they wearer seems, it's only she who wears the shoes that knows where it pinches. And believe me, hours of walking in stillettos can leave you with serious leg cramps!!! But contrary to what you think, this post isn't all about stillettos - It's about carrying your cross and walking through the painful experiences of life like a lady in stillettos.

To the person reading this and going through trials and struggles, it's the things that you go through that will eventually make you a beauty and a sight to behold before men.

IT'S FOR YOUR GOOD

As unbelievable as it sounds, every negative experience from your childhood till date is working for your good. Just like a village girl being trained to walk I'm stillettos, it gets difficult, but as the days pass by, you eventually come to the point where you can walk through that situation and come out shinning like a star. Romans  8:28 says "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Draw confidence from the fact that God is working behind the scenes and he will ensure that you come out more beautiful than ever.

Jesus had to pass through the painful shameful cross to get to his resurrection, receive his crown and eventually sit at the right hand of God. Beyond every cross, lies a crown. After every night comes the day. Don't die in your situation. Bear the pain of those stillettos you're wearing and go forward. As long as you don't give up, you'll eventually come out a pro, and an instructor unto others.

KEEP WALKING
When ladies gather for a beauty pageant, knowing that the D-day will involve wearing stillettos for hours, the wise ones spend every day wearing 6-8 inch heels stillettos. Despite the pain and discomfort, as they keep walking in it daily, it eventually gets easier and they become pros. God's word to you today is to keep on walking. Don't complain, don't give up - just keep walking. You lost your parents - Keep on walking. You got raped - Keep on walking. You just went through a painful break up - Keep on walking. You got cheated  - Keep on walking. You're getting older and can't seem to find a life partner - Keep on walking. Soon, the tables will turn and that same situation that caused you are pain and shame will become your glory and crown.

Keep this scripture in mind always - Romans  8:37... in all these things we are MORE THAN CONQUERORS through him that loved us.

The stage has been set and the world is waiting for you to tell your story - a story of survival, triumph and victory that will save future generations. You need those stillettos (painful experiences) to stand on that stage. Receive strength and grace to come out triumphant in Jesus name. Xoxo

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BE THE BEST YOU ARE!!!
Written by - Mimi Okwara

It's a beautiful day, sisters. Happy July. As a continuation from my previous post, NO MORE, I'd like to speak specifically today on who you are, and being exactly that. I see high and lofty ladies/women daily bask in the aura of false self-gait, with the deepest fear of insecurity; haunted with memories of childhood molestations, regrets, mistakes... and so on and it pains me greatly. Consequently, we hide under the cloak of ACCEPTANCE with you turning into "everybody's good girl, trying so hard to please your dad, mum, pals, boyfriend, fiance,etc. Dear sister of mine, I understand that the spark that got you rolling with him was the fact that he actually started off looking like the one in a thousand ways that presented articulately the "I care" speech. But that is not enough reason to lose who you are (sweetheart, nicer men are on the way). 

Fulfillment and acceptance aren't found in the air - their residence is within (on the inside of you). You can't be happy with anyone else till you are happy, fulfilled and calmly resolved, all by yourself. For crying out loud,we already have tons of dishevelled mums on the inside springing up on the outside, their stories being told as gossip or headline news daily. Please, don't add to the ever increasing number.
 
Whatever it is, FIX IT UP, NOW. No one is and will be YOUR BETTER HALF to complement and fill up spaces. Only God can fill the vacuums in your life created by a terrible childhood, bad relationships, past hurts and  a desire to be loved. Your present state of a heart in shambles wasn't so ab initio. God made you WHOLESOME, not a burden, so don't plan to burden any one with your problems. Get it right, now!
Yea,I know they hurt you in many places intentionally or unintentionally. But, you're not the only one - so many of us are victims of different kinds of abuse from a very early age. For some, it initiated a RIPPLE EFFECT that left you so open, disgusting, and dirty (says who?). Some others  are even scared that everyone else (besides them), are wolves in sheep clothing..., and that no one will accept them for real. 

My dear, he will Love, care for, and adore you if he is THE ONE, for you. Besides, God is always there for you, and if he finds/he's found God, then he will find you because God will lead him to you. Even if the stab hurts so much that you can't talk to no one... Fine! Maybe, you don't need to do so yet. Just hear Jesus give you the assurance that He is there for you. Then you can sing in Kari's voice:
 
I know that you are for me I know that you will never forsake me in my weakness.
 
The both of us (God and I), care so much that you become THE BEST YOU; that the strength of God bursts forth on the inside of you to successfully beat through all challenges to become THE BEST, the VERY BEST. GOD'S grace is at work in you, sweetheart. Be the best you are!

 ~Mimi...

Mimi Okwara is a Worship leader and Word teacher. She has a life revolving around the music ministry, creative writing, public speaking,blogging and poetry. She runs a counseling consult called "The RIGHT Initiative" and directs The Unveilers Worship Group -(TUWG). Presently, she studies at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka and resides there too.

She can be reached. via these contacts details:

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Handling Spiritual Fatigue

Yes oo! It is possible to suffer from spiritual fatigue, just as we suffer from physical fatigue. Spiritual fatigue is that point you get to where engaging in spiritual activities becomes cumbersome, difficult and uninteresting. In other words, it’s fatigue of the soul that makes engaging in spiritual activities difficult. Here on sister 2 sister, we’re not only concerned about your relationships or your career, we’re also interested in your spiritual life and its vitality. So how can you know you’re spiritually fatigued? See if any of these apply to you.

Signs of Spiritual Fatigue

- You feel like leaving the earth and its troubles behind.

- You’re tired of upholding everyone in prayers.

- Prayer and church have become burdensome.

- You constantly want to get away from everything and rest.

- You’re tired of moving from trial to trial.

Causes of Spiritual Fatigue

Here are a few major causes of spiritual fatigue:

- Pending/unfulfilled expectations (that’s the reason why ……. says “hope deferred makes the heart sick”).

- Too many trials, troubles and challenges happening simultaneously over a period of time.

- Going from task to task for a long period without partaking in any spiritually refreshing and renewing activities such as a worship service or church programme. 

So How Do I Handle It?

#1 – A Personal Retreat

The best way to handle spiritual fatigue is to take a short time out (maybe a day or a weekend) for a personal retreat. If you work all week, a weekend will be better for you. Find a quiet place that will allow you have time alone with God. Turn off your phone and take quality time to thank God and worship him. 

Make a list of all the good things God has done for you and your family so it can motivate you to praise God even more. Write out a list of all the things bothering your mind and lift them up to God in prayer. Ask God to take away the burden of these things, fill your heart with his peace and restore your soul and spirit. Keep worshiping God in songs until you get to that point where you feel his peace and strength return to your soul.

#2 – Listen to a Message/ Song Relevant to your Situation

This is useful on a daily basis. You should always have audio and video messages on the word of God on your phone alongside beautiful worship songs. They always come handy for reviving your soul daily. Pick the one to listen to per day as you’re led in your spirit and you’ll be amazed at how spiritual fatigue will fly out from your soul.

#3 – Attend a Worship Service or a Programme in your Church

Just as a piece of charcoal gradually losing its fire can be revived by being placed amidst other pieces of charcoal which are ablaze, worshiping God with other believers is a quick way to regain your spiritual fire. At first, it may seem hard to connect with the flow of worship but if your heart is sincere and you put your whole being into worshiping God at the service, your fire for worship will be restored in no time. You will definitely leave the service refreshed and fatigueless. 

#4 – Get a Friend who Believes in Jesus to Pray with You

This applies especially when spiritual fatigue is as a result of too many unfulfilled expectations and too many trials/challenges. ….. says “if two of you shall agree on anything in my name, it shall be done by my father in heaven”. As two of you lift up those issues bothering you unto God, you are making a prayer of agreement that God is faithful to answer. He will lighten your burden and restore your spiritual strength.

Make it a Habit

Spiritual fatigue is something you will experience more than once in your lifetime and walk with God. Make all these a habit and by the grace of God, you will make it out of every situation without losing your spiritual fire in God. Xoxo.

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Evidence Grace is the founder and head-blogger at Sister 2 Sister Nigeria. She's passionate about seeing people get it right in life, destiny and marriage. A woman of many gifts, and talents, she is focused on fulfilling God's purpose for her life, becoming ALL God has fore-ordained her to be and spreading the gospel to the ends of the earth. Her marital status?Keep your fingers crossed.

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What to Pray While You Wait to be Found

Hey there. Hope your week is going well. Today’s blogpost is specially dedicated to all my ladies in waiting (single ladies waiting to be found by the man of their dreams); to those single women who understand that making the right choice of a life partner is crucial and requires divine assistance. As you wait upon God for your time to come, here are some prayer points you should add to your prayer list in your closet. They will position you for what your future in marriage and help you make the right choice of a life partner. Here they are:

•    Lord purge me of childishness and bring me into maturity in every dimension. 
• Open my eyes to see my weaknesses and flaws and give me the grace to correct them. 
•  Lord, send every book, message, knowledge and resources needed for my all round development in Jesus name. 
•  Lord, make me a wife suitable for my husband. 
•  Help me to discern the right man for me when he shows up. 
• Lord, put an automatic no in my mouth for the wrong men and an automatic yes in mouth for the right man when he comes. 
•  Father, give me the grace to be patient and to wait for as long as it takes until the right man shows up. 
•  Lord, bless my future husband and I with the wisdom and finances we need in Jesus name.

Voila! Those are the ones I could think of. Now it’s over to you dear blog reader. Can you think of any other ones to add to the list? Share it in the comments section. Remember, James 5:16 says “…the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much”. You can’t leave things to chance or “fate”. Instead of wishing for the best, pray for it instead. Our God almighty is faithful to do exceedingly, abundantly above all that we could ever ask, think or imagine. Xoxo

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Evidence Grace is the founder and head-blogger at Sister 2 Sister Nigeria. She's passionate about seeing people get it right in life, destiny and marriage. A woman of many gifts, and talents, she is focused on fulfilling God's purpose for her life, becoming ALL God has fore-ordained her to be and spreading the gospel to the ends of the earth. Her marital status?Keep your fingers crossed.

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EYE OPENERS - God’s Love for you is Consistent

Based on my post last week, I trust that you have seen from God’s word that God’s commitment to you is beyond you doing good or bad? Yes I really sincerely believe you have seen it. If you missed last week’s post, click here to read it. Today on eye openers, I’ll like to show you something about God’s love for and that is its CONSISTENCY. 

Let me show you one more scripture: “… having loved his own who were in the world, he now showed them the full extent of his love” Jn.13:1b (NIV) I love the way KJV put the latter part. It says: ‘… he loved them unto the end’. You see that? The BBE version renders it like this: ‘…his love for them went on to the very end.’ Whoooo!!!! Amen!!!

Have you been cheated? Are you under pressure or you are been abused by a friend of relative, I tell you the truth, the Love of Christ for you, is sure and superior to the natural selfish human love. If you will open up yourself to the Love of the father, you will experience healing like never before! 

Now, you must let go of bitterness! For the sake of the love of Christ who never looked at the extent of your decay but yet extend his saving arms and translated you in to into his kingdom. Can I do this? Yes! You can! The word of God says you can! See Rm. 5:5 “and hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love in to our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given to us”.

You are the one left to free yourself from whatever emotional bondage that you have found yourself, its left for you to embrace the love of God and allow it to flow through you to others. It is as you allow the Holy Spirit to work out the love of the father in you and through you, will you experience the inner peace and joy you desperately yearn for and then you will have rest on every side. The devil has no right to steal your joy! He has no right to keep your head bowed! Cheer up! Breathe in his love and see his healing flow in and through your life.

 

Confession time!!!

Beloved, one way the devil can keep you in bondage is to shut your mouth! This is not a gimmick it’s the word of God. If you will do well in life, you’ve got to put the word in your mouth and say what you believe.

“The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart that is the word of faith we are proclaiming” Rm.10:8

“The word is near me; it is in my mouth and in my heart that is the word of faith I speak in Jesus’ name. God is my father, he has loved me with his everlasting love and he will never change his mind even if I ran away. He can never lie to me; I believe his word is true I have been forgiven! I have redemption! I have forgiveness of sins! I’m not hurting anymore! I am convinced that my errors are not counted because he swore to me never to remember them again and he did it by blotting it out in the death of his son and my Lord Jesus Christ. I reject every whisper of condemnation in my heart; I resist that evil voice in the name of Jesus! I am not afraid! God has justified me, no one can condemn me.

I have my confidence back! And the joy of the Lord is my strength! Amen!!!

Brother Yemi is a minister of God and a teacher of the word whose passion is to see people know the truth about the redemption of God and be liberated from guilt and condemnation. Contact him using these details:

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