6 People You Should Keep at Arms-Length this Season

Yes o! Evil company corrupts good manners (1 Corinthians 15:33). I don’t know about you o. But as for me, I have a destiny to fulfill and a dream/vision to chase till it becomes a reality. The company you keep determines to a very large extent how far you will go/rise to in life. It’s time for you to examine and re-evaluate the people who are around your life to see which ones will remain and which ones you will have to distance yourself from.

To make it easier for you, I made a list of 6 people you should keep far from your life this season. In case you’re wondering what season we’re in, this is the season of fulfilling destiny/purpose. Now to the list…

1) The Discourager

Aha! A discourager is anybody who never encourages you each time you mention your dream/plans. He or she always criticizes your dreams and tells you to “face reality” because “that will never happen” or tells you to move on to more serious things. In fact, the more you hang out with such a person, the more you begin to doubt your dreams and abilities.

2) The Time Waster

Aka Jaiye-Jaiye Prefect. This kind of person is usually a fun person. He or she adds spice to your life bringing fun, laughter and creating wonderful memories. However, when you have serious tasks lined up and a target to achieve or you need quiet time to think things through, such a person usually becomes a time-waster coming up with all sorts of time-wasting activities. What’s more, if you refuse to go with them, they take offense and blackmail you with “Eeeeeh. If it was me, I would have done this for you” until you give in.

3) The Vagabond

This kind of person has no sense of direction presently, hasn’t discovered the purpose for his life, is not chasing any dream and just does whatever he/she can lay his hands on. Each time he/she sees you doing something related to your dream, they sound like this “You and this your ……… sef. Na everyday you dey do this thing. Abeg no kill your sef o. Rest small now”. The fact that you’re focused is a threat to them because it reminds them that they have no sense of direction.

4) The Idea-Thief

Or should I say stealer..lol. This is that person in your life who “copies” every idea you come up with. He/she has copied many of your little concepts and ideas in the past. Now that you’re ready to move higher, expect more copying and idea-stealing on a higher and more painful level.

5) Non-Supportive Boyfriend

With all the hostility around us as we chase our dreams and fulfill destiny, who needs a non-supportive boyfriend who adds salt to injury? We need the people closest to us and the people who mean the most to us to support our dreams. Having a boyfriend who’s also an “enemy” of your dreams or destiny is heart breaking. Despite all your pleas for his support, if he has chosen to be a non-supportive boyfriend, you should have a re-think on his status as your boyfriend.

6) Tale-Bearers 

Aha! I’m talking about all those people who always bring stories of “he said, she said” to you. They always seem to hear when people talk about you and have commissioned themselves as tale-bearers to faithfully bring such info to you. What’s more, they know how to amplify the story and spice it up till you’re all worked up with rage and ready to declare war. You don’t need all that info. You have a race to run and a destiny to fulfill. Preserve your ears and energy for better things.

Why Do I Need To Keep Them at Arms-Length

What?!! Didn’t you know already? It’s because they are not helpful but toxic to your purpose, dreams and destiny. The more you hang around them, the more your strength and zest for life and destiny is depleted. Hebrews 12:1 says “...let us lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily besets us and run with patience the race set before us”. All these people are currently weights in your life that make running on the tracks of destiny more difficult than it should be. Now I’m not asking you to start keeping malice with them but you need to put some distance between you and them if you must make progress. Find a way to control and minimize your contact with them. If can’t do that, protect your dreams from them. Stop telling them stuff related to your dreams since you know they always discourage you or try to steal your ideas. And when they bring all those dem-say dem-say gist or time-wasting gimmicks, tell them you no longer have time for that.  

What about those you need to surround yourself with if you must achieve your dreams and fulfill destiny, we’ll talk about that some other time. Till then, xoxo.

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3 Things That Blind A Lady’s Judgement

OMG!!! What is she up to again? Hehehehe! Well, nothing dangerous. Just hoping that this post would be an eye opener in some way. First I’d like to say thank you for clicking this blog. Here, we serve original content, fresh n hot and we keep it simple. Every click on the blog is worthwhile. Do stop by regularly and don’t be stingy, spread the word to those you know.

Every one (not just ladies) needs sound judgement (the ability to decipher things accurately and make the right choices). Every lady has a sense of judgement and intuition which enables us make decisions. However, this ability could be “blinded” by some things. When this happens, like a blind person, we grope in the dark and make wrong decisions.

11)  Gifts and Kindness 

   

Every lady loves to receive gifts. We also love it when someone goes out of their way to be kind to us. As humans, we always respond kindly and more favourably to those who are nice to us, especially when they have been consistently nice to us. So, both things (gifts and acts of kindness) usually blind us to the reality of things in relationships. Even when your intuition tells you that something is wrong with this relationship, something else tells you “but he’s been kind to me, he’s done this and that for me”. So your judgement is blinded and when you ought make a decision in the interest of your destiny, future and well being, you make poor decisions instead. Hello dear! Even the devil will lavish you with kindness if that will get you but that doesn’t change the fact that his actual aim is to destroy you. What am I saying? Don’t let kindness blind you into something that’s not good for you.

)  2) Your Age 

    

The older a lady gets, the more desperate she becomes to get married. Aside from societal pressure and people’s side talks about the fact that you’re still single, if you have always desired to be married, you begin to put pressure on yourself to settle down with whoever comes your way as you get older. This puts you into desperation mode and in turn, blinds you from making sound judgement. Also, when you’re younger, you’re more carefree and may tend to let go of meaningful relationships or opportunities because you feel you have a whole life ahead of you. Bottomline? Whether you are young or old, don’t allow age blind your judgement. Apply patience and wisdom where both are needed.

  3)  Feelings and Emotions

Ladies are more feeling oriented. This means that we act most of the time based on our feelings / emotions per time. No matter what we do, we will always have feelings and emotions. Under feelings and emotions is included love (even though love is not actually a feeling) and it’s counterfeit version, lust. All these things blind us ladies from judging accurately and puts us in the “my mind says this, my heart says this” dilemma. Feelings and emotions are the reasons why a lot of ladies have stayed on in toxic situations / relationships that are slowly destroying them when they should have moved on much earlier.

Take Off The Blind Fold

Are you presently blinded by any of these three things? Take off the blind fold and you’ll see clearly enough to make a better decision. What happens if you refuse to take off the blindfold? Well, you may keep advancing but you’ll surely get to a point where you’ll be injured. Even if you have 20/20 vision, if you’re blindfolded, you’ll grope around like a blind person. No one can take this blindfold off for you. Only you can. I pray for whoever has been blinded by any of these things. May God take off the blindfold and open your eyes to the truth. Xoxo

P.S: Can you think of any other things that blind’s a lady’s judgement?

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