What to Pray While You Wait to be Found

Hey there. Hope your week is going well. Today’s blogpost is specially dedicated to all my ladies in waiting (single ladies waiting to be found by the man of their dreams); to those single women who understand that making the right choice of a life partner is crucial and requires divine assistance. As you wait upon God for your time to come, here are some prayer points you should add to your prayer list in your closet. They will position you for what your future in marriage and help you make the right choice of a life partner. Here they are:

•    Lord purge me of childishness and bring me into maturity in every dimension. 
• Open my eyes to see my weaknesses and flaws and give me the grace to correct them. 
•  Lord, send every book, message, knowledge and resources needed for my all round development in Jesus name. 
•  Lord, make me a wife suitable for my husband. 
•  Help me to discern the right man for me when he shows up. 
• Lord, put an automatic no in my mouth for the wrong men and an automatic yes in mouth for the right man when he comes. 
•  Father, give me the grace to be patient and to wait for as long as it takes until the right man shows up. 
•  Lord, bless my future husband and I with the wisdom and finances we need in Jesus name.

Voila! Those are the ones I could think of. Now it’s over to you dear blog reader. Can you think of any other ones to add to the list? Share it in the comments section. Remember, James 5:16 says “…the effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much”. You can’t leave things to chance or “fate”. Instead of wishing for the best, pray for it instead. Our God almighty is faithful to do exceedingly, abundantly above all that we could ever ask, think or imagine. Xoxo

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Evidence Grace is the founder and head-blogger at Sister 2 Sister Nigeria. She's passionate about seeing people get it right in life, destiny and marriage. A woman of many gifts, and talents, she is focused on fulfilling God's purpose for her life, becoming ALL God has fore-ordained her to be and spreading the gospel to the ends of the earth. Her marital status?Keep your fingers crossed.

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HANDLING A TOXIC PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP Pt 2

What to do when you find yourself in a toxic permanent relationship... 


This post is a sequel to previous post I did yesterday which bears the same title (click here to read). Today, I'll be dealing with practical ways to handle a toxic permanent relationship (e.g marriage or family relationship). Here we go!

IT'S NOT THEIR FAULT
If people knew better, they would act better. If your spouse or family member knew better, they won't be the source/cause of the toxicity you're experiencing in your marriage / relationship. We're products of the environments we've been raised in and experiences we've encountered. All some people know is how to be toxic simply because that is all they've been through. It's not that they don't love - It's just that they don't know how to relate with you in a healthy way. It's also not your fault that somehow, they've become a permanent part of your life. Besides, hurting people hurt others, especially when they've been hurt all their lives.

MAKE POSITIVE CONFESSIONS A HABIT
Toxic relationships usually involve a lot of abuse (physical, emotional and mental), a lot of name calling, cutting remarks, belittling etc. Hearing such words constantly can be quite depressing and energy zapping. That's why you need to develop the habit of making positive confessions in your private time over your life and future. This will undo the effects of their nasty words and refocus your heart on something positive. When you keep quiet, these wicked words and nasty treatment will begin to erode you like acid. When you speak positive words, they undo the effects of these words and they also shape your future. How much more when the positive words you speak are based on the word of God!


PRAY
When I say pray, I don't only mean that you should pray for God to change them. Yes, the Lord is able to turn people's hearts (see proverbs 21:1). While you pray and wait for God to transform your toxic partner or family member, you also need to pray that God will give you the grace to go through the relationship without being destroyed. Ask for the grace to forgive them over and over again. Ask God to heal both of you and heal your relationship. Ask him for the grace to stay productive, positive and fruitful even in such a toxic environment. Your situation will turn out for good in Jesus name.

GIVE IT TIME TO CHANGE
Yes, God is able to do instant miracles and he still does them. In most cases, when it comes to the pulling down of strongholds of the mind such as mindsets, habits and behaviour patterns, it is usually available gradual process that requires a lot of patience from you. Some days there will be progress, other days there will be relapses, but eventually, you will come out strong.

DO SOMETHING GOOD THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
Find something that makes you happy to keep you busy. Whether it's for money or for free, get busy doing something that blesses others and makes you happy. The joy you get from doing it will refill your emotional cup and restore your self-worth; something that is sadly lacking in your relationship. As you water others despite how you feel, God will water your life where it matters the most (see proverbs 11:25).

MAINTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
As difficult as this sounds, God can give you the grace to maintain a positive attitude. Despite the constant flow of provocations, you can't afford to develop a nasty attitude. Your positive attitude and behaviour in the face of toxic provocations is one of the tools God will use to turn things around.

CHECK TO SEE IF YOU'RE NOT PART OF IT
Before you put all the blame on someone else, truthfully psychoanalyse things to see if you have a hand in the toxicity in your relationship and adjust.

GOD'S GRACE IS AVAILABLE
All these things are only possible with God's grace. But it starts with your decision to fight the good fight faith by believing God for a change in your relationship. Experience has shown that when one partner in a toxic relationship prays for God's intervention, he usually begins the process of change in you and eventually works it out through you. Do your part and God will do his. I'll be praying for you.

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What to Try When You’ve Tried Everything

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This post is dedicated to those who’ve done everything they know and things are still not working out; those who are at their wits end and wondering what step to take next…If this situation describes you, here are a few things you may want to try out. Don’t give up just yet; try out the steps listed below and watch how everything will turn around.

Pray About It

Actually, this ought to be the first step you need to try out when things aren’t working. Unfortunately, when we encounter hitches at work, in business or in relationships, we get carried away with what is happening and forget to pray about it. When you pray about a situation, you invite God’s help and intervention and open yourself as well as the situation up to revealed secrets that will turn things around. Aside from that, there’s a special peace that comes from knowing that you’re no longer in it alone because you’ve invoked God’s help.

Seek Counsel

As my pastor Rev. Prince Emmabel once said, there is a difference between advice and counsel. According to him, advice is what you get when you disclose your issues to anyone who cares to listen and it is filled with peoples personal opinion (sometimes myopic and misguided) about how they think you should respond. Counsel gotten from people who are qualified academically, psychologically, experience wise, spiritually etc to handle a particular type of issue or give accurate counsel. Maybe all you’ve sought this while is advice from your peers and people who’re not in the position to give you sound counsel and that’s why you’ve gotten your fingers burnt. He who goes to a dentist to treat his eyes should not complain if he returns home worse; what business does a dentist have with eye treatment??? This time around, take your issue to those who are in the position to give you counsel in business, life matters, marriage matters and etc. Before you go to them, ask the spirit of the Lord to use them to speak to you.

Take Responsibility

When you keep placing the blame on others for the things that happen, it blinds you to how you may have contributed to causing or escalating the issue at hand and what you can do to turn things around. Truthfully, you may have an overbearing and difficult boss, a spouse who has trust or temper issues and it maybe true that the other party is just a troublemaker. Some other person’s carelessness may have landed you in that mess; but if you look carefully to see how you can help the situation, it will suddenly dawn on you what new steps you may have to take. Some situations may not be able to change immediately so we must learn how best to live with and mange them. 

Do Things Differently

I do not know what things you may have tried to salvage that situation already but if what you’ve tried so far isn’t working, you need to try something different. Don’t turn a blind eye to the counsel you received simply because it doesn’t sit too well with you; try it out. After all, you’ve tried so many things and they didn’t work; what do you have to lose? When doctors prescribe a drug and it doesn’t work on a patient despite the fact that it works on others, they try a different drug meant for that ailment; they do not remain stuck trying the previous one. 

Let Go

After you’ve tried all these things and there’s still no turn around, then it’s time to let go. There’s no shame in letting go. Letting go is not the same thing as giving up. Giving up means abandoning all home that there will be a turn around (more like quitting); letting go means relinquishing agitation and worry about how things will turn out and the fact that things are not working and allowing things play out while taking the position of perfect peace. Let go and let God take control; commit everything into God’s hands and stop bothering about it. It will amaze you how things will turn out.

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